Hi guys.

Im busy on the style life challenge. I have got as far as day 2. I am struggling to open random strangers(Im supposed to make small talk with them). I literally freeze up like I have a mental block or something.I can't think of anything to say,which angle to approach from etc etc. I don't think I have had a bad experience with opening women ,I just psych myself out before I have even started.

If anyone can help me out with openers that work well and obviously give me more advice regarding my sticking point I'd greatly appreciate it!!

Regards
Jotun101

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Relax.

I'm just getting back into the game myself, and this is the easiest first step, I feel, to ignore. You have to relax and develop some solid inner game. Everyone gets approach anxiety sir, everyone. There's no silver bullet to rid yourself of that, the best thing to do is work on some relaxation techniques, get yourself into a calm state of mind and know that you're going to fuck up along the way that's the only way you learn! Approach each situation this way and you'll be fine and instantly deflate the pressure you've surrounded yourself with.

In terms of openers, there's literally thousands on this site and on google if you really want. Some are great, some are awful, some are only good in certain situations, etc. it's all up to you on how you want to implement them into your game and flow.

I personally love situational openers and just natural game in general, use things around you, observations, people, and come up with something. Delivery is integral, you don't want to scurry up like a coked out horn dog you want to walk up like a James Bond or Hank Moody (if you've seen the show "Californication"), calm and confident. The best bit of advice someone gave me once: "Dude, just don't give a shit". Not only should you be conveying this through your nonverbal communication but it's helpful to actually not give a shit, just don't who cares really?

Something else that I've found helpful is to do some "warm ups" so you can practice and get into a talking / confident mindset. You don't have to just target every HB10 you see, try going up to some average HB6's or shit even just a group of people and game them all guys, girls, pets, etc. This is all supposed to be fun and should enhance your life not cause tension!

Start with women who you aren't into sexually. Or some guys. Just to get the ball rolling. It will get you into a social mentality and make it slightly easier to ease your way into opening women you are interested in. But yes approach anxiety is real and you either harness it and use it to your advantage, or have it control you.

If you smoke and you're sarging, ask for a lighter. That's what I do when I'm not in state and it's helped.

Or just go up and say the most ridiculous thing you can think of. If you have seen Game of Thrones, I go up to girls sometimes and do a Hodor impression. The bigger the blowout you force yourself into, the less aa you'll have in the future. And you might find, even with doing something ridiculous and stupid, your delivery and attitude will make it a successful opener.

Hi guys. I have overcome my AA. Was pretty simple. Don't think just approach. Thanks for all your advice and help.

UPDATE: I find daygame is working way better for me and it also helps my night game! Went for a couple of hynosis sessions to rid myself of mental blocks(plus I have always wanted to try hypnosis)

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