dating a depressed girl- do they ever change
is depression a life long illness or is it just temporary. i know this girl and she takes fluctoname -prozac and she says she take it everyday for 2 years-she lies to me at times. im not sure how long. really but she takes that drug and also her mood changes too. she gets mad or sad pretty easily. at time i didnt text her for a day and told me she was sad since i didnt text her. or her pics didnt get through and she says shes mad in the text msg
but i know for sure she isnt working, she is 24 , hard time making decisions and changes her mind/or hard time making decisions and very negative and yes she has depression
im just wonderin if she will ever get better as im looking to settle and long term partner
will she ever get better and never had to take prozac-flutonaime , will mood be normal, is it
Very secretive anonymous girl too.ask her what she do on weekend we didn't hang out and she gives.you very vague answer like oh hangout family in park and u ask which park and she like do I have tell u




i have to admit it so hard being with her. she make me all stressed out, cant sleep, she frustrates me. she very sensitive too. so if i say im not sure when or if i want get married and she takes it as get mad or sad that i dont want marry her. she takes my words out of context . like she asked if we could be together forever after the 2nd date and i said im not sure and how nothing is forever and later that day she told me she got sad and upset. i didnt know she was this sensitive.

it doesn't sound like your in a healthy relationship. If your not happy leave. You will find other girls. Above all else and I'm sure this has crossed your mind, don't be with her becuase you think she will harm herself if u leave. It sounds like you guys don't trust ea other. Here vague answers , her getting upset over u not texting etc... another sign of unhealthy relationship. If you didn't know she was taking medication or depressed would you still be with this women??? That's probably the biggest question you need to answer. Probably no... No guy wants to deal with that much hassle ... But that's just me.

If you really want to stick it out with this girl perhaps going to a psychotherapist together would help.

Personally I think she needs to get her shit together . And truth be told this has happened to my father who was in your same position . Girl depressed, many problems etc. When she finally decided to get her shit together she left him.. And they were engaged .

Anyway perhaps talking more deeply about her problems or depression can strengthen the relationship . She may not want to talk about it but u have to man up and push it, cuz if don't then how the fuck can you think about marring her?

sorry about my first post, i was on my phone and it may not have been very clear with what i was saying.

ill try to answer your questions for you in an easier way to read.

do they ever change?
it depends.. it could be actually who they are. it could be the pills..

depression a long life illness?
no it is not life long, plain in simple. so people recover in 2 days some don't recover at all

if she has been taking these pills for 2 years its a good possibility that she will be taking them the rest of her life. BUT i dont know her situation . and im not trying to judge her . im not sure.

mood changes...
well most girls are like that.. even guys.. which may or may not be a result of the drug, but most likely is...
or her depression.

the fact that she lies to you is a big no-no in my book..

the fact you didnt text her for a day when you text her every other day will ofcourse make her sad... it would make anyone sad.. or upset.

you cant assume that she will get better nor can you force her to. you would need to have the mindset that she will never get better if your trying to have a life with this person. YOU NEED TO LOVE HER FOR WHO SHE IS NOW AND NOT WHO SHE WILL BE LATER.. otherwise it will never work out in the long run..

and the last thing "do i have to tell you"

well... fucking yes you have to tell me. i want to fucking know! obviously you can be more nice about it like "yeah, i would like to know" or "whats so secrete about it?"

if she really wont fucking tell you the park she went to then shes a fucking bitch.. nuff said


personally homie, i wouldnt blame everything on the drug or depression. because you honestly don't know if its really her.. or the drug. and im sure a lot of guys on her can tell you that there are girls out there that are just like yours with out being on medication or depressed.


im guessing you met her while on the medication and not before? so a year or so youve been together?


BTW i have had slight depression in the past , and i have also taken depression pills. people have said my mood changed when i was on the meds (in a good way) but i stopped taking them because it felt like i wasnt real.. like my emotions were superficial. i didnt feel sad, happy, angry. i was just... there. it does have different effects on other people, thats just my experience with it.

You can't date her thinking you're going to fix her... you won't.

You're going to need to decide if you can accept her the way she is, really... her condition may change or may not (after 2 yrs if she's still a bucket of crazy, you'd have to think it'll be at least a few more, if not forever, though, wouldn't you?)

Even said to me no diamonds no sex can u believe it. I got her a crystal necklace and she said why not diamonds and she said like spend 1000
Also very superficial it's all about dress looks new expensive cars diamonds typical princess but on government disability money
Tried get her job but she threw every excuses from can't log into email, lost password ,....etc
I can't afford her as I'm transitioning into new career or job soon

in reality and im speaking truth here.. if the gov is paying for her needs finding a job that will make you the same money or less is not worth it to find a job.

if she gets a job her gov checks wont be coming in anymore.

disability funds is actually really hard to acquire... i wouldnt want to ruin that, personally.

anyway, i think you know the answers your self.