So I went on a date with her but I have no idea where I stand with her. I've known this girl for a whIle now and built up a lot of attraction over text with C+F (although I'm not sure how effective texting for attraction is) I asked her out soon after and she agreed, however I said "for banter" just to tone down the seriousness of it however I am concerned that she may have misinterpreted that it was not an actual date. Anyway we went out and we agreed to split the costs. I mainly focused on comfort playing question game and making good conversation throughout with very little attraction. There was very very minimal Kino which was the sticking point. After we went to a shitty film and I told her how shitty I thought the film was which may have been a DLV. Then I dropped her off and hugged her goodbye. I initiated the text on the way home and she thanked me saying it was a laugh. Does that even mean anything? Anyway I continued texting and I think my interest in her was conveyed as she started taking longer replies where after just a few texts later when I suggested a second date, she didn't reply. On Facebook, I continued and she replied the same night but stopped in the morning. Right now we are still continuing a BBM conversation but I am guessing she will stop that very soon too.I might be overanalysing the date with where I went wrong but it was ok but I have no idea where I stand with her right now? And the dynamic of her chasing me is kind of going away. Where can I take this further? How can I proceed to a second date with a chance of her replying?

probably not that good. movie date is generally the worst imo, especially for 1st date. I really don't think it matter that she thought it was for banter or whatever. if you texted her and she didnt respond, id probably just give up. but you could call her and try to set something up, if you do, make it better than a shitty film tho, sounds like the most boring thing ever. texting her literally right after the date probably not optimal

It does not really matter, on a deeper level, does it? You are completely overthinking this entire situation. Did you go for what you want? If not then that is your problem. All you can really do is go for what you want. Everything else is out of your control. Stop worrying about what she thinks about it and start going for what you want.

Thank you for the response. I havnt talked to her in a week now but we're doing a kiddy poke war on Facebook. How could I initiate conversation but also escalate to setting up a second date without conveying too much interest?

Yeah. Texts are horrible for building attraction. So is facebook. Unless you're sexting with her, which would be pretty good, but I guess it's not the case. Why not call her, if you want something, like a man? I bet she'd be more pleased to at least hear your deep, calm, manly voice instead of reading some childish/boring texts. How many guys do you think are texting her? And how many has the balls to actually call her? Think about it...

And yes, what the others have said. Movie date is horrible, especially for first date. And what Tr@veler said. Stop worrying about where you stand and take action. Ironically when you take action, you will immediately know where you stand too...

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You are right but I cant just call her out of the blue. That would be a bit weird and it could get awkward. Im not sure

What exactly is weird about it? You two regularly speak via texts. How is it weird to call her? Please explain, I don't understand. Be prepared though that I'm going to logically demolish your excuse anyway... Unless the girl has some weird phobia of telephone calls(exists, though can't remember the name of it), I can't see any excuse that justifies not calling. Anyway, if you think she'd find it strange that you call, it's all the better. At least you get her mind going and heart racing about why you called instead of text this time. If she's interested, she'll pick it up.

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Well seeing as she hasnt responded to my texts, Facebook messages and bbm messages I wouldn't say we regularly speak anymore. All it is a poke war which even that seems to be slowing down. I don't know man, I guess I could call her but I wouldn't be confident with it. I'm much better in text and in person. Phone calls for me always feel weird and awkward I guess but like you said itd get her heart racing. I havnt spoken to her in over a week now. Perhaps she is freezing out on me or just hoping I take a hint that she's definitely not interested...anyway would it be better to initiate a convo over text first now? And what are some openers baring in mind it's been a week.

So you haven't spoken in a week, and she's not responding to anything except for poking on facebook? I guess that's one good hint she's not interested. Stop poking her on facebook, and start gaming other chicks. I think you're wasting precious time with this one... If not, then she will hit you up. The ball is in her court because there are couple of messages she could reply to any time...

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I guess so but the messages I sent her aren't the kind that require a response anyway. And I'm pretty sure she woildve stopped poking me if she was completely uninterested. I think she's trying to make herself not look too easy or purposely sending mixed signals but I could be wrong

Pretty sure then it still won't hurt for you to start gaming other women. Meanwhile I don't understand why you keep sending her BS that are not the kind of texts you expect to be responded. Really puzzling strategy for me.

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She invited me to a singing concert she and her friend are in but lots of her friends and family are coming and she told me to bring friends because they count as votes. What am I to do?