| Following on from what I said yesterday, something actually did occur in the city I work in!
So there I am at the bus stop humbly awaiting the bus to go home so I can eagerly watch an episode or two of Ashes to Ashes (incredible film with an incredible Alpha Male - Gene Hunt, watch it!). This girl with Blonde hair, a similar look to Jennifer lawrence, wearing a frilly top and shiny disco pants stands opposite of me. Our bus arrives and I let her get on first.
I hear the bus driver say that's £2.00 love, he then charged me £3.00. I walked over to her and opened:
"So tell me, how come you get charged £2.00 and I don't."
"Because I have a young scots child card."
"Ah that's interesting, yet you're not a child.."
"Ha, I guess not!"
*I understand from her accent that she's English.*
"You're English."
"Yeah I am" said in a proud smile.
"What motivated you to come up here? No! Actually! Don't tell me, I know what it was. You were in the bus station in Manchester, meeting a guy called Steve who you had the massive hots for. However, he didn't actually show and left you waiting like a lonely girl for an hour. You were SO embarrassed so you ran to Scotland."
*We both laugh* "Hahaha yeah that's exactly it, nah I moved when I was very young. I live in *that town* but I just started work here. I work in KFC."
The conversation followed on to what she wanted to do with her life and she said she'd love to fly. She divulged that she was a girl who was bored of this place and loves to travel. I made a very funny story of how she was going to get there - by sneaking into the airport, stabbing the pilot and hijacking the plane. It was a fun moment.
I gave her my phone and told her to put her number in my phone but she politely said no. Interesting as I thought the conversation went very well.
I went home and meditated (not literally) over where I went wrong and where in the conversation I was good at as well. I got her to open up in the conversation, which is great but I didn't spend time building rapport then breaking it. Which would've made to have been a more powerful and impacting conversation.
So I now know what to do next - open, lighten up the mood, build rapport then break it.
Although I didn't succeed in closing, it has made into one very good learning curve. Man, I love girls! _________________ "At the end of the day these are women's lives we're dealing with, not mere entertainment."
"We are what we repeatedly do. excellence therefore is a habit and not an act."
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