Hello fellas,

I want to post my story and success and quickly talk about how I achieved it. I am gonna make this quick as such it isn't too boring to read.

I started my formal attempts at become 'good with women' when I was 18. I would watch pick up artists on line and analyse what they did, I made math out of it, this analytical step by step 'pick up' game rarely worked for me.

I went everywhere in search of techniques and strategies, never found anything useful. I always scrolled right past the "self-confidence" and "inner-game" part of this forums, little did I know, that is where I was supposed to be...

Listen fellas, put your ego aside for a bit. I thought I didn't have a problem with self confidence, I am part of my university's varsity team, I am tall and pretty fit, I am also easy in the eyes if I may say so myself. In school work or in the gym, I was like a ballerina, so smooth and flowing; but when I approached a girl that I was attracted to, that went away completely....

There are two things that you can count on approaching women, you confidence and your conversing skills. You could be confident but overly cocky (never shut up), you could be Canada's know it all and capable of contributing a little no matter what the conversation is, but just very shy...

Invest in these two, they will never lie. Some girls will only go for rich men, some won't date outside their culture, etc... But all in all, money, looks, none of that matters nearly as much...

Consider a triangle

The problem fellas is that we try to fill in the absolute top without having the basics down. I think its pretty darn impressive when you have devoloped a skill set in which many girls are willing to take time of their week to go out with you, that skill, in my opinion is at the peak of the triangle...

for 3 years, I was working there, but it always broke down because I did not have the pillars, I did not fill in the basics, I skipped far too much to be working on the top...

Take a step back, here are my advice on how to fill the bottom...

This did not work for me until I completely removed the end goals of dating more attractive women out of my head. I began to work on my shyness and confidence, I began to say 'no' to people far more frequently than I say anything else, I became more assertive and perssistent, if my order was wron, I went in and let them know I was upset about it.. I started conversation with no openers, just for the sake of the conversation, not the end result of it.

I began to get better at story telling and found my ability to zoom out of my brain and zoom in to the conversation i'm actually having, getting so much better.

I began to actually have fun with it.

So there ya have it, take a month off finding a girl, but instead, speaking to people more often, more loudly and actually have fun doing it. work on confidence by going to the gym, eating properly, setting goals and achieving them, do hobbies that make you happy...

When the time comes, being on a date is actually really fun if you take the expectation and the worry out of it. NO ONE CARES if you bore the girl, or if there is no 2nd date, at least you learn from your mistakes and that will be anew story you can tell people!

Stop caring what people think.

A date is no more than having a mindset of having fun and having 4-5 stories to tell...

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The dating guy