I have a serious question about no contact in it's use after a breakup - sure it is the ultimate way to move on from a broken relationship but people have reported success in restarting relationships too..right?

Anyhoo..I'm trying to get a girl back...I'm thinking of it as along term project that will run in parallel to other stuff - if it works out great but if not then no worries.

I read somewhere that the way you initiate NC has an influence on it's success for getting the girl. If you begin NC by agreeing to break up and that it's a good idea and "see ya 'round.." then it's good....but if you start it bay saying something like "please take me back...please o please o please...I'm so lame"....then chances are not as good

Thing is - I was with this girl and things got difficult for external reasons after about 18mo - she was showing signs of wanting to break up but didn't come out and say it. Two weeks ago I thought I would end it once an for all but when I told her.... she said she was unsure and needed time to think about it - so, like a chump I said "please lets give it another chance"...and that was it, she said she would call. Now, from what I understand this is pretty much the worst way to begin NC if I want to get her back. So I was thinking of breaking NC to say - "yup, we should just go our separate ways...see ya". My reasoning is that for the long run it puts me at higher value.

Any thoughts ?