heres the story, this girl likes me, but i think i played too cold.
and one time we talked on SPAM then i need to do some stuff, it took me long, she tough i fell asleep so cut the call, then i text asking where she go, and she said she tough i fell asleep so she SPAM with other friend, then i was like "ok, im goin to sleep", and appologizes but i didnt text back, that night she changed her BBM status to "i think i like him" probably not me tho. so the next 3 day i go cold, she text me the next day i didnt reply, then on day 3 she changed her BBM picture to a pict pf her with some guy, and i think this is when i lose her, on day 4 i text her said i missed her and she was excited, like "for the 1st time". but i can definitely fell something is wrong, she usualy text me everyday, but not anymore

btw it happened this week on 21 - i go cold, 22 - she text didnt reply,23 - changed her bbm pict, 24 - i text her, 25 - i initiate the text, 26 - i initiate, 27 - no contact, 28 today we could meet, coz shes coming to my city (shes in singapore and im in jakarta)

so guys, what should in do? i want LTR
im thinking of kino escalation, and rewarding her with kino?
advice please?

I know people say you don't text back after the first date until X days later but that's bullshit.

As a guy, you can't wait for gold to shit out of the sky. If you want something or someone you have to go get it/her.

Same thing in your situation. You don't need to freeze her out. You don't need to be a douche to her if you *think* she is interested, assume she is. That puts you into a assertive and aggressive mindset.

Texting is only useful to make meet ups happen. Don't text and be like "Hey whats up", ask her how her day is, tease her and propose a time to meet within the next 3 days. On the day of, send her a reminder text.

When with her, be openly sexual. Kino escalate (light touching), go in for a kiss because you're assuming she likes you anyways.

unfortunately we live in a different country, and she goes here atleast once a moth so cant meet much, either SPAM or text
i think she likes me cos she lough alot, call me sweet, funny, text me everyday askin what im doin (atleast she used to, b4 i mess it up), pay for my foods, tells me her day (used to), we been goin for about 2 month now.
last week she text me she going to my place and want me to meet her

but thats the thing, after i mess up she doesnt contact me anymore
well, then ill do kino today, were supossed to meet today (we didnt make promises tho)

so the date went really good, we get a great vibe, i touch her and she gigles, she tells alot about herself, she talked about the first time she saw me which is 2-3 moths ago and actualy remembered the colour of shirt im wearing and my hair is longer, then guesed my birthday and fav colour, she even remembered our first texts. i wasnt even looking for 101 but it fells right, you know right?
but now shes back in singapore and she doesnt contact me, is she flaking?
why would she do that? i mean she like me right?, she used to text everyday, ask to SPAM with me day and night, but now she doesnt even text anything at all