What do I do with my body language to display confidence?

Just look relaxed. Have good posture.

Speak with relaxed vocal cords. When a man is stressed or supplicating his voice goes up.

Give her eye contact. Make her look away first.

Remember ladies will pickup on these subtle things.

All of this is perfectly said!

It's about a wide stance, wide relaxed shoulders, comfort with who you are, head high, spinal chord straight, smooth youthful movement, and use illustrators when you talk so you show yourself moving freely.

I wrote an article on Alpha Male body language here http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/03 ... tive-male/

Here is my alpha video thread alpha-body-language-video-series-vt139475.html or you can click the link in my signature to go to the play list.

In the Being the Man thread I authored on this page there are some moments of confident body language. There are also is The Body Language is the Key to Natural Game thread I wrote on this page that discusses good body language.

Sorry man but I did a half hr video and wrote that article to make it easier for guys like you and so I didn't have to respond with literally the same answer every time.

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My wing and discovered this technique of being at a bar/restuarant and leaning back against your chair and putting one arm up over the corner of the seatback and just letting it hang off and dangle there. It makes you look REALLY laid back, casual, and confident. Kind of like a gangsta lean.

I knew this regular at the bar I used to work at who would actually put his feet up on chairs or barstools like he was at home kicking back. It was kind of rude and not very classy imo, but it made him look like hew was incredibly confident and relaxed. He was always with a woman too.

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Practice power posing everyday i.e. making yourself bigger.

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Awesome video man! You can definitely feel a difference when you put your shoulders back and spread out for a couple of minutes. It makes you feel more confident too. Now to just be concious of this throughout the day.

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It is a great video. Why are they are saying it like it is news or something? This has been known for decades now. I love the video but to me it is kind of funny because I've been saying that for two years, and the book I read it out of was very old. The chemical tests are a bit new but University of Michigan did a study A LONG time ago proving that changing your body language changes how you feel and your thus your behavior.

It's important to remember if your size is already dominant, to not be overbearing with your dominant, power posing, or alpha body language, however you want to put it. If you are a tall guy or big guy you want to make sure not to use to dominant body language because your size already shows dominance. Bigger/Taller guys should have a more narrow stance and while they should use illustrators and keep their head held high, nonthreatening body language should be offered when you hold a confident and dominant size.

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-hold your drink low by your waist
-shoulders back chest out (slightly, not in an obvious way)
-large deliberate steps in the direction your walking
-minimal movement overall, not rushed by anybody around you
-movements are slow
-never lose a stare-down

Go to youtube, search Marlo Stanfield. Watch him.... if anybody here has seen the wire they'll know what I'm talking about.

Holding your drink low by your waist? Can you explain how that is considered confident body language?

Can you also explain how slow movement is confident?

Neither one of those shows confidence because they show restricted movement. Restricted movement is not a sign of confidence.

When it comes to telling a speech or charisma you want to have illustrators, this is where you move your hands while you talk to help illustrate a story. Putting your hands down by your waist is poor advice because it tells someone to put their hands in one area. Body language isn't limited or locked to any one signal but to recommend this I'd have to disagree with.

A great example is if you are talking to a girl who isn't attracted, if you just left your hand down by your waist while you were talking you would look flat and you would literally lower her energy. When you learn about public speaking one of the worst things you can do is limit your movements and keep your hands low. I keep mentioning public speaking because public speakers must have confident and attractive body language. It is a good starting point for a lot of PUAs in a lot of ways. When you move your hands high you bring up their energy.

A good example is a concert and how the guy on stage will raise he his hands to bring the energy in the room up. There are also a lot of Obama pictures with his hands up because it raises the energy.

Slow movement also doesn't show YOUTH which is a big part of confidence and looking like a healthy sexual mate. The movement should be fluid and easy but slow is actually very bad advice, in my opinion based off of the 10 plus books of body language I've read.

I'd agree that you shouldn't have unnecessary movement but that doesn't mean you should be a stiff, the guys with charisma and the most attractive guys attract attention, slow movement is actually more of a reaction of fear or anxiety. Think of a guy that is nerdy and nervous, he always moves slowly.

The main part of confidence is shoulders, stance, head, open hands, and relaxed body language. Someone confident is always comfortable, this means unrestricted movements. Anytime you aren't being congruent with your personality you aren't showing confidence. For me confident body languae is different then others.

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It all depends on the situation... Holding your drink low, moving slowly but deliberately shows that you are relaxed, content, not trying to impress anybody. If a girl starts talking to you and you quickly adjust your posture and the direction of your head to pay attention... that displays anxiousness/overexcitedness. If she starts talking to you and you slowly turn your head to look at her without moving your body at all ==> power move.


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Good body language is a habit! If you truly have good body language it will be habit to have confident good posture, I know I do, I don't have to straighten it. My body language is habit and yours should be to.

Mystery doesn't have very good body language for smaller guys. He is very tall and look at how high he holds his head to show he is nonthreatening his size shows dominance his body language doesn't have to, he also doesn't hold his shoulders high. His height is very attractive to women, studies have shown taller men have a higher sexual partner average then shorter men. Mystery also doesn't really have a True Core Confidence that gleams through his body language, he has confidence in his abilities with girls. Source: The Game his emotional instability shows he lacks a True Core Confidence, as it is a huge part of actual confidence.

The Wire - I'm not sure that is a good example of confident body language, he was stealing something thus uses nonthreatening fearful body language not to attract attention, so he doesn't really show that much confidence. His shoulders are low and head low, they don't show confidence in who he is until that guy steps to him. Try watching it without the volume, it's not impressive body language.

Look at this guys body language from White Collar. He also always moves slower to not attract attention because he is always doing something dishonest, avoiding attracting attention is essential as a con artist but his confidence in his dishonesty is why he gets away with it. His posture is fantastic, how he holds his head high, eye contact, and his smile has charm. When I watch tv I see his body language as perfect for his character. This is key, if slow movement is part of your personality.

I am more of a high energy guy, while I don't move fast and jerky I move with a bit more speed and more fluidity. It's my confidence in how I move congruent with my personality. Your personality and normal energy level largely influences your body language.

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Where you hold your hand depends largely on the energy of the environment. In a bar you want to hold your drink at your chest or so because the energy level is little higher. At dinner or one on one you should hold your hand lower to look more relaxed and keep the energy a little lower so the energy can stir up.

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There are a lot of good tips here and Dr. Spargenator (the original poster), honestly you should try all of them and see how the reactions of the hotties differ - that's how you'll know what are the things to work on for you.

poeticlyskuac has some good points, as does DayMan337l. However holding drinks high in front of your chest; and leaning in towards the girl too much, are probably the biggest two body language mistakes guys make. The important thing is to not hold it infront of your chest like the rest of the insecure guys in the bar. A good piece of advice to help with the drink problem, is if you have a drink, hold it to the side of your body or at your side at waist level. Or even better, put it on a table. Whatever. Just don't spend all your time holding it statically infront of your chest.

Equally important is not leaning in towards the girl too much. This normally happens because you can't quite hear what she is saying, so you lean in to hear properly what she is saying. The problem with this is it means you are investing more into the interaction than she is, and hence looks weak. It's unattractive. However you can lean in sometimes, just instead temper it with sometimes standing straight up and pulling her in closer to you to speak. Or even better, learn to speak louder

Other than those two common problems, follow the advice on the rest of this thread. Have good posture, make strong eye contact, be expressive when needed and be still and slow when needed. shoulders back, chin up, and take up as much space as you need.

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