ok last night i had a very amazing, but very irritating date. first, a little background; this girl works in a shop i used to work in. she started there after i left. i now own a coffeeshop, and i buy my veg for the coffeeshop from this place. i also recently started working for her boss again, as he's moved into wholesaling wine, im now his sales rep. so obviously im looking pretty good to this girl, status-wise. every time im in there for the last few months we've had brief encounters that felt like they should have lasted longer, theres a great chemistry between us. anyway i never bothered asking her number before, because i was seeing someone for a while, but then a little while ago i broke up with yer one, and pretty much just as i did, a friend who also works in this shop told me that this girl talks about me all the time, she's mad into me. so im thinking, great! this shouldnt even require much effort! but wait, of course theres a catch, my friend tells me, that this girl has been casually seeing a guy, a model, and that he's basically the worst thing that ever happened to her. he's homeless, and apparently completely taking advantage of this girls kindness, leeching off her. so i say to my friend, well, im not gettin in the middle of that! but then a few days later my friend tells me they "broke up" (using " " because apparently they were never actually officially an item?) . so i think, great, now maybe il do something about it. so next time im in there, i have a great chat with her, she even offered to help me bring my stuff out to my car, and i ask for her number, which she gives me happily.

i left thinking, GAME ON. waited 2 days, texted her, we arrange to meet later in the week to go to a wine bar. we texted all day, from 3pm til 2am. a good few of the texts had sexual undertones, which i rarely do. so when date day comes along, im in a great mood, thinkin this is in the bag. and i actually like this girl, i dont just want to fuck her, shes girlfriend material. aaanyway...

so we're on the date. having an amazing time. i had her laughing so much she hit her head off the wall behind her chair 3 times. then in the middle of the date, she starts tellin me about this guy. how theyre friends, but sort of more, but just friends. she tells me about kissing other guys and him getting jealous. stuff like that. she referred to him as "the grey area". as in the whole situation is a grey area. im thinking, what the FUCK are you tellin me this for, and if this shit is still goin on why did my friend tell me you were single! i probably should have said that instead of just thinking it.

anyway, when it came to that topic, i just told her it sounded like he was taking advantage of her, and that it was crazy, and i tried to not talk about it anymore. and it was strange, cuz id just finished things with a girl i had a similar situation with. i told her about that. and how glad i was it was over. but eventually we moved on, talked about other things, had a great time etc. when it came to pay, i took care of the bill, but only because i wanted an excuse to see her again, so i told her next time she can get it. we went for a walk around the city, and then it comes to light that SHES LIVING IN A HOTEL ROOM WITH THIS GUY. her parents kicked her out, or something, and he has no home. utterly depressing situation. im shocked. i really didnt know how to handle it, so i just teased her about being a fool about the situation. she could be staying with a real friend, not one who wants to fuck her and eat her food and let her pay for him to have a bed.

anyway, we get to my tram stop (i dont live in the city, she does) but the last one has gone. i was pissed off, a taxi to my place would cost like 35 euro. she felt guilty for makin me miss the last tram (her idea to go for a walk) and she offered to pay for a taxi for me. i sort of tried to get her to come with me, but it was half hearted, as i know shes got all her stuff in this hotel room with this guy. anyway i let her give me money for the taxi (theres no way im comin outa this shit short-changed!) i flag one down, give her a hug, hop in, call my friend who fuckin told me this girl liked me, and instead of spendin all the cash on the taxi spend a fraction goin this friends house for the night (a small bit of justice in my mind, profiting...bleh) so i can quiz my friend on this nonsense. so i get there and i tell her the story of this date, and she then tells me what the girl told her earlier that day. basically, her parents kicked her out of her house the day before. so she went running to this other guy. apparently she had really been looking forward to our date, really excited and nervous, but then gettin kicked out of her house sent her back to this moron. what i dont get, is why she didnt cancel the date. my friend didnt understand either. anyway, my friend thinks its not over, she said shes gona try get this girl to stay in her house instead of the hotel with this guy. and she reckons theres no way things can go on with them much longer cuz they always fight. this shit is ridiculous. and yet im so intrigued by this girl. i can get girls, i realized a while ago i have natural game, i havent been rejected in a long time. so i should probaby just move on. but i havent really been mad into the girls iv been with lately, theyre attractive and fun, but i havent been feeling it. with this girl im feeling something i havent felt in years, and thats why im thinking i have to sorta wait this out, and see what happens.


just wanted to tell you guys, to see what you think. this is fucking retarded isnt it? what do you think i should do?

Haha, you should bang her and then send her back to this guy. She seems like a troubled mess. Normal girls won't talk about such personal stuff on your "first date". She seems to have her own issues, I suggest you don't date her. And btw, I'm really glad you took her money

ah she's not a troubled mess, just in a messy situation that she doesnt seem to be able to pull out of. and i dont know how to pull her out of it. she's very intelligent, and has a great sense of humour, and is in many other ways my type...

but anyway...yeah i'm also glad i took her money haha instead of usin it all to get home i went to my friends house and used the rest of the money for breakfast

How I see it is that girls like guys that can create emotion within them.
It takes alot of emotion for them to fight like you say and at this stage you are still early in you "relationship" and havent built up that strong emotional bond yet.
these suituations allways sort themselves out, shes not ur GF so basically she can do what she pleases no guilt.
If you want here spend more time with her, build a stronger bond, create more attraction, ignor the fact that shes staying with this dude hotel rooms are expensive it wont last long.
eventually she will work out that staying with this dude and dating you at the same time is a No-No, and like you said shes smart so it wont take long
if she dusnt the fuck it shes not worth you time and she likes this dude better
watch out if shes a fixer tho, then leaches and loosers create a challenge for her and become more attractive

Id treat it like they are in a "relation ship" and you have to offer her a better option.
I garuentee that Hating on the guy shes living with will only make you look bad. Remember you are there to make her life more enjoyable not less so dont make her feel bad.
Otherwise plow on Brother

Don't know what to say. It's funny really. Anyways, speaking of hotel, I have some tips to give you while staying in it. Isn't free stuff always great? particularly when you are staying in a hotel. You are paying for the continental breakfast, but did you know that you are spending money on a host of toiletries and sundries, too? Do not leave them behind! Find out things to lawfully take from your hotel room when you leave, because it will save you money. You know it pays a lot to be practical sometimes.

There is where you fucked up.

1. Trying to make her your girlfriend before even sleeping with her. Stop that.

2. offering solutions to her about her guy issues. A logical solution to girl is crap. Just listen and change topic soon as possible.

Very true, however...we went out last night, SHE paid, and then I slept with her awwwwwwwwww yeeeeeeaaaahhhhhh. sorted! for now...