Hi guys,

I was at the Art Gallery and I saw this hot girl. So I approached and told her she looked beautiful. Now normally the reaction is like this "Oh thank you *smile*" and then I continue the convo.

This one however was like "You know you should keep the thoughts to yourself. It makes people uncomfortable!" to which I replied "Why does it make you uncomfortable if I call you beautiful?". Same reply again "it makes people uncomfortable".

In the situation I figured she was a Weirdo and exited with a quick Sorry but later I thought: Was she Shit testing me? or was she some crazy artsy bitch? I said the similar sort of thing to 10 or more girls on this particular day the reaction was always smile or a thank you.

This is why I more often than not choose to compliment her personal choices not what she looks like, I compliment her apparel or accessories. Women really appreciate when you compliment what she has chose to wear over what she has been naturally given.

This woman probably had a boyfriend, husband, or something. It was a way to deny you. You could just playfully revoke the compliment, "didn't notice your personality, guess I was wrong." Plenty of ways to about it, you can use her statement against her. "Actually, I've told plenty of women they are beautiful, you are the first to have issue with a compliment. Kind of makes me uncomfortable. I expose my thoughts to build comfort and confidence most of the time, not expose a woman's insecurities like this."

If she still has issue you just look at her and you go on to say your reaction is weird and makes other feel uncomfortable.

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If you open with a compliment you're gunna look really needy.. :?

^ I agree, you shouldn't open with a compliment. It's often times a little too direct.

i feel like these situations can be plowed thru, it could be shit test or truth, either way, you have to plow thru and avoid negative vibe.

in your case I'd just say "i see(quick brush off) so whats your name? you look like..." and just keep on plowing till hook point

or you couldve said "oh i disagree a lot of people enjoy compliments but who cares, my names Deeper you look like..."

if shes being a bitch you should thorw in a quick neg but quickly continue

Not if you come from David X, Alan Roger Currie or Sasha Daygame school of thought. If anything, from this point of view I wasn't direct enough.

I disagree completely with not complimenting. What is needy is tone or body language, not a compliment. I can tell beautiful woman you are beautiful and get away with it. It is in your tone. I have told tons of women it, I choose not to use that one often but it certainly isn't a big deal.

Your goal is to make her feel good so that you can build attraction. Attraction has a direct correlation to making her feel good. So complimenting can be a huge asset in building attraction.

If you walk up shoulders up, head down, narrow stance you are going to place them above you with your body language, and it would be hard to disagree. When you deliver a compliment it should be no big deal, you do it like you have given tons of compliments. It shouldn't be frail and submissive, like so many other guys who have said it.

It disappoints me that this attitude is all over the forums when you can just be charismatic by elevating people and build tons of great relationships along with being the most attractive person around. Compliments are one of the traits of charismatic people.

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nah, how can I put this,

guy a girl finds attractive gives a compliment = great, she gets really happy, wants to talk, big smile on the face, little giggles, gives you her number

guy she finds unattractive give a compliment = makes her feel uncomfortable, she is not interested


it's the same as this, you're at a beach



this girl walks up to you and says, hi I think you're handsome, how do you feel, and how do you respond?



ok, now, you're at a beach


this girl walks up to you and says, hi I think you're handsome, how do you feel, and how do you respond?

ok, now that you got that analogy going, you should know that what girls find attractive and unattractive is far more subjective from girl to girl, and one girl might find you extremely attractive beyond any guy she has ever met, while another girl might find you hideously unbearable to be around

as for being needy, complimenting or not complimenting on the opener has nothing to do with being needy, if you are needy you are needy, if you are not needy, you are not needy, it is as simple as that, if you don't understand what neediness is, then you might be coming from a needy place, you can hide your intentions and do so out of neediness just as easy as show your intentions and do so out of neediness (but either way if you are going to have sex with a girl, the dick has to leave the pants at some point)

haha thanks pumpington for that pictorial explanation.