That is up to you, you have to ask yourself how do you feel more confortable.
You shouldn't be like this or like that becasue you read it in a book, just use or aply the things that go with your personality.
Maybe the things didn't work out for you as you expected for other reasons, it's very important knowing yourself and knowing what is it that you want.
Check this 2 videos, I'm sure they can help you out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWeQJmd ... jdWDRfxft5
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oga02d ... 4OKeDCWlQb