I will like to teach myself
how to be a quicker and sharper thinker and conversonalist.
Right now I'm seen as a absent guy which responses is a little off beat.
I would like to be better as becomming in a state of mind where my responses are sharp and on timing. It kills alot of my jokes etc. that I'm slow on them in a conversation.
Do any of you guys have some advices, experience or material to dig in that can help me?
Would be much appreciated!

//LA

Practice... Talk to people more often. Force yourself to try to be that guy. Acting or Improv classes might not be a bad idea.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

flash cards..

Q:what do you do?
A: Im a professional bank robber. you should tag along with me sometime you wanna be shooting or driving?

Try to sign up at an improvisation club, like a Toast Masters club. That will get you to react quickly and have a good time.

Practice bantering with women more. Also, the idea of flash cards gave me this idea. If you have a friend in the game role play out a pickup with what you are going to say and what you think she's going to say. Give each other some curve balls to get faster with what you want to say.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

i feel like group game is more about fluff talk skills, one on one you can actually get to know the person but in a group you have to be more superficial

Put yourself into a situation where you are talking to a lot of people. Either do a TON of approaches, or find a job where you are dealing with a ton of people on a daily basis. Surround yourself with people that are quick on their feet as well. Watch a lot of standup so you start thinking like a person who has all sorts of one liners. Practice, Practice, Practice.

A different kind of suggestion: take yourself and your ideas and the things you say less seriously. This way you can say whatever comes to mind at any instant and shrug it off with a smile if it doesn't catch. Who cares if it doesn't catch? It's not like it would change the world if it did. Don't think so highly of yourself :)

You don't think any slower than anyone else. Everyone thinks at the same speed. Some just think more. I'm guessing this is you, and I'm guessing it's because you're scared of how you'll be received. And so you think more. Because you're scared. So you think more. Because you're scared. So you think more ...

Sometimes I get this, and for me, the only way out is to take myself less seriously. I remind myself I'm no smarter or dumber than anyone else, and there's no pressure on me to be a genius, and that's good, because nobody's a genius. (It requires a shrinking of your ego :)

To lessen your ego, I recommend The Black Swan by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. It pretty much proves no one knows anything.

Is English your native language? If not, then of course you'll be a little slow. When I'm speaking in other languages I sound like a three year old. But I'm not scared, I'm relaxed, I smile a lot -- and it's because I believe I'm just as good as anyone else.

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There’s two types of comedians in the world the ones that you laugh at and the ones that you laugh with. Go watch a stand-up comedy gig and sit in the front row. Try to find a venue that’s intimate. The comedian will ask you questions and you can get a chance to do your moves, if you don’t you will be taught a valuable lesson in game. Believe me some stand-up comedians know how to hold it down (but that’s only the second type that we talked about earlier).

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