Success with women and dating is closely linked to self esteem, internal value systems and awareness. You must feel worthy as a catch while at the same time understanding male to female dynamics. Knowing how to flirt, move things forward and make it happen.

Just because you have some kind of success, money looks etc, does not mean that a woman should automatically be attracted to you. Nobody in life owes you anything and neither do women. You must earn their respect and affections. Sparking chemistry works differently to cultivating friendship. Attraction is different. Attraction is a combination of status & value (both internal and relative) combined with social awareness and appropriate communication.

Feeling internaly strong , non-outcome dependent or concerned with opinions. You should be able to build sexual tension with women automatically. Examples of this would be to casually tease women about cute little quirks, using role playing scenarios as a form of flirting to build up connection and learning subtle techniques for creating anticipation and intrigue. You can add a bit of game playing to if you like to create further suspense and mystery.

The Reality Is…

From the moment you first meet a woman there must be some kind of natural attraction. The techniques and so called game all help, but ultimately in order to truly connect and create attraction and chemistry, you need to give off a natural healthy vibe. If you are only using techniques to connect with women than something is missing and will prevent your desired success. It will be a constant roadblock.

If you are coming from a place where validation is constantly needed than no matter what external techniques and outer behaviours you exhibit. You will always fall short of generating the appropriate connection needed for solid relationships.

So learning about women and dating and improving your love life is closely related to self development. You must work on yourself as much as you work on your skills. If you self-improve then ultimately your dating life will improve. The rest is all just for fun!

Cheers

Written by Colin Dubb

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Kelly Austin
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I'm some what of a noob when it comes to this but bear with me, I didn't get what you said about improving yourself just as much as your social skills because I believe you get a lot more fullfilment through just "being" and not limiting yourself with beliefs you have about yourself.. so can you talk a little bit more about what you meant about imroving yourself, thanks.

Great post

Exacly, great post

Spot on! Self respect and self-perceived value are, IMO, the most important tools to pick up a girl. I'm the posterchild.... I used to be nearly 300 pounds, and I've since lost 70 and am a new man. My new sense of self-confidence led to me getting much increased attention with the ladies. I realize afterwards that the signs were there before, I just couldn't believe them because I didn't believe anyone could find me attractive.

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I couldn't agree more with the post. You may not notice yourself, but humans are naturally able to tell if someone is being confident due to their own self esteem or due to some perception they are trying to push. But more importantly, if you have low self esteem your not going to try very hard in the first place IMO.

The part about natural attraction is half the battle right there, if your not trying to look your best, you ain't gonna hang for very long cuz there are millions of other guys working out, getting tans, and doing all the socialized BS to get pussy.

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chill the fuck up

yep, definitley a great post!
and I'm with you ?uestion...I lost something like 55 pounds and already am more confident! But there is just a bit still left to be 100% confident.
Later I'll be going to the club with an HB10 I already know, I hope the last bit to beo completly confident will come then.

can you really have much confidence in yourself if you dont know your value? surely you can be confident, but unless you have gauged what you can achieve, its really only superficial confidence and can easily be broken.