And they smoke pot, LOL! Don't underestimate the value of social lubricants. Once upon a time I went signature gathering with a scrawny ex-felon Hell's Angel who got into heavy drugs mainly for the crack hos. Lest anyone seek to emulate him, I'm sure he's dead now. Bad heart, due to all that clean living.

It's a little bit more psychological to come up with a schtick that does not involve drugs.

I hear you, to a point. A small time investment to extend your horizons is ok. But some of us have careers we need to attend to, and serious pursuits are a big time investment. So nowadays, I'm not going to bother with a new hobby unless it's (1) something I want to do, as otherwise, I will never put enough time into it to be good at it and reap benefits from it, and (2) has gender balance. I don't need more classes in how to break people's necks. It's interesting stuff, but it's a "hugely male" pursuit, and I'm not making a career out of breaking necks. There's Capoeria, which in many places has devolved into dancing disguised as fighting, and thus has chicks. But if we're not breaking necks, I'm not that interested in it as a martial art. There's modern dance, but I don't have the time to be good at that. The direct way is to look for the intersection of what I want and what they want, like rollerblading. I've thought about picking it up before, and I have a dog who would really like to drag me around at full speed. Chicks do art, film, and writing, so I'm into those lately.