So I have become really close to a girl at school, and we have been inseparable for the first semester, spending lots of time together: eating dinner, laughing, watching movies, going on full out dates and for the longest time I was so cool with us being just "friends". I was throwing down solid game, and was happy to have such a beautiful and chilling girl to spend time with. We have slept in the same bed a few times, and the last time, which was about a month ago, I was a bit frisky, and I know she was panting, but we never kissed or talked about it afterwards.

Fast forward a few weeks, and the same chilling continues, except I have lost all drive to pursue other girls, and now all I can think about is my friend. Since Ive realized I liked her, I have been shifting the conversation in a sexual way, but she only flirts back a little. We have talked about relationships as well, in this time, and we seem like the perfect fit. She has suggested that we are gonna kiss on her birthday, which is coming up in two weeks. I feel like there is something there, as every time I see her, we have the biggest smiles on our faces, and we always die laughing together. However, she has given almost no outward green light. Its very unfortunate, but I have fallen for my friend. I need to turn this friend ship around, and Im in need of some help. I know the above sounds sappy, but thats what I have been reduced to. This could be a serious wifey...

Thank you

Most likely you fell into the friends zone...Next time you see her, KINO KINO KINO.
As for her birthday and the kiss, if i were you i would kiss her before just to show her that it's not a really big deal. Make some eye contact next time you see her, and pull the trigger! don't be nervous, she's gonna go for it trust me, but you gotta make sure to do a lot of Kino before and throw some DHV's too.

Good luck!

Thanks for the advice! Im new to the site, so I have to figure out what KINO and DHV is, but I will do it up for sure. Its a tough pick up because this friendship is very important for business as well as pleasure... love is b*tch.

Hahaha, so I read up on the terminology, and it turns out I have some serious one-itis. This girl is making me into an AFC real quick.

How could you NOT have given her the dick when you two were laying in bed!?

LOL messed up!

I have been in similar circumstances. I have no advice on the situation because I never worked it out, but this is completely useless. You have obviously never had a girl FRIEND. You aren't always given the opportunity. Once you have a lot of girl FRIENDS around and you are getting laid sleeping with a women platonic ally wouldn't be difficult.

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I was in a "similar" position. And I'll make an EXTREMELY long story very short.

I met a girl. I ran game. Within about a week I ended up in her bed. She cried before we started. I tried to comfort her and in time she became the first girl I had feelings for. She wanted to marry her asshole ex who she was still in contact with. I walked away with a broken heart knowing I couldn't have her. The ex used her for sex multiple times. She recently realized. Now I'm just her "friend". I don't call her much because I'll never have her the way I want. Keeping close contact will never let me heal.

I like to get a girl's opinion on my performance in all aspects of a relationship, so I know where to improve. It's almost like a report card. I ask how she felt about sex, intimacy, and overall how she viewed the relationship. I did so much for her. I gave my heart to her. And when I listened to how she viewed the relationship we weren't together or even DATING in her eyes!

Lessons 1 Once you get friend-ed it is damn near impossible to recover.

If the sex or emotional aspects are not what you want then move on. You are not getting the physical or emotional pleasure you want from her. You're just hurting yourself.

Lesson 2 Until you had sex with her you are just a pillow in her bed, and even after sex no "relationship" may develop. I slept with the girl and she didn't think we were together. You haven't even kissed her. She does not see you as a potential option. She has probably made out and slept with several men in the time frame you've known her.

Walk away from her now. Getting what you are aiming for will turn you into Sisyphus. The more you toil the more painful it will be when you realize you either can't have her or she is not what you made her out to be.

If you cut off ALL contact you will find another girl. In your absence she MIGHT miss you and maybe you can get a relationship.

Cut your losses.

It's okay not to have sex with a girl at the first opportunity. But it should probably be clear that it's because you CHOSE not too. Yeah, if she's making you wait two weeks for a kiss, your game is probably over. It sounds like she's putting it off because she doesn't want it to happen; probably there will be people around and it wouldn't be sexy at all. If you're flirting with her about sex, STOP IT. Talking about sex isn't sexy unless you're in a sexual relationship already. You apparently had her in your bed panting, think back on how you got to that point.

Also, enrique, that's a shitty story.

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So I know that this is the same advice I give everyone, but hit her up and if she says no then get outta there.

You're starting to get feelings for her and that makes it a different game when you are interacting. You need to turn it sexual and fast.

I think that a good way to do it in your case is next time you are in a situation where it is a bit intimate, touch her. Grab her hips or something, tell her "fuck the birthday" and go in for the kill. It's no biggy, you'll see how she feels, and I reckon if she layed in bed with you she'll be happy to go further.

Post back what you do and how it goes!

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don't mean to thread hijack but Minsok what do you mean by it's a shitty story? What happened hurt and was shitty but whatever I'll move on.

I just didn't want to tell the guy the truth without him understanding that I'm not against him by letting him know I've been in a similar position

Oh sorry, I mean it's shitty you were in that position, I meant to add to it. It really shows how inexperienced you were that you thought you were in a full blown relationship and she didn't think anything of you. I think it's all on you, but I empathize anyway.

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