Lately (unbeknown to me) I've been ignoring this co-worker...I haven't been trying to, sometimes you just get busy and there isn't always time to socialize.

Anyway, I'm trying to come up with a creative and direct way to respond to her, when she says things like, "Why have you been ignoring me?"

Rather than beat around the bush, I thought I'd be direct and say something like, "I'm not ignoring you, the truth is I have to practice self-control around attractive women."

And if she persists, I blame it on her by saying something along the lines of, "your only crime is being too sexy for me to work around, I can't work like this. It's your fault! (jokingly)"

From there, I go into escalating things.

The last part I kind of took from 60 years' material of "blaming it on her". Though I hope I got the right idea.

What do you all think?

"Yeah, I've been busy lately. Work's kicking my ass. Why, are you missing me? That's so cute!!! Tell you what, what are you doing this weekend? I'll make it up to you since you're missing me so much. I got this thing im going to do (Make anything up), come with me."

Bang.

Just be careful your personality and confidence coincide with what you want to say. Not many people can work what you said without sounding AFC.

Solteris had a great answer. Would be a great rebuttal.


My style would be just look at her and say straight up "sorry Luv world doesn't evolve around you." Look at her and smile turning my head. Open stance and body language. Open arms and hands held around the navel area. I have a certain character to how I do things so I say things that other people may have a harder time with. More specifically my character changes how it sounds. Make sure she realizes you are joking around, hence the open body language. Just let a statement simmer for the 60 YOC style, let the tension build.

Just ask her to kick it, grab a drink, snag some food, whatever activity you can think of. Don't over think these things, she wants your attention, she asked for it.

I'm at work when we "kick it/ hang out/ grab a drink/ etc." after work I'll pay a bit more attention to you.

Whatever works the key is the body language for any statement. Be confident, open, and non-threatening. Your delivery means a lot more then what you say.

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