The Goal of A Natural? TO BE HAPPY.

You know what? **** her.

We are who we are. You're a human being who thinks, has ambitions, has friends, a family and a career path you want to pursue. She's not the going to turn into the sole point of your existence so STOP THINKING ABOUT HER.

If there was one piece of advice I could give you it's this: DON'T LET ANY GIRL TAME YOU AND TAKE OVER YOUR WHOLE EXISTENCE.

If you want to hang out with friends, hang out. If you have a family get together to go to, go to it. If you have a sibling that needs help with their homework and she's bitching about some trivial thing you've done...**** her. You are you. A human being with a life and belief of his own.

Stop stalking her on facebook. Stop thinking about the text that you sent her. Stop checking your phone every five minutes to see if you "missed" her text. Just live your life as if facebook and your phone didn't exist. REMEMBER YOU'RE THE PRIZE and she sure as *** doesn't give a **** about you.

Why do we do this? Why Dwell on her? Why even bother perfecting our "Game" at all? Everyone has their own unique answer, so here's mine: To extract knowledge. Why do you want to meet her and get her talking, because you're on a quest for information. You like every other human being on this planet occupies the human condition. We share the same emotions, occupy the same space, see the same movies, read the same books, drink the same water, but most importantly we share the same goal: TO BE HAPPY.

Everyone is in the pursuit of happiness, but let me tell you good sir, you're not going to find it dwelling on her face, or on her facebook page. Happiness is what she wants for herself and yourself, so forget her and move on. I KNOW ITS TRICKY. Why does the human mind work like this? Why is it that we're the top species on this planet YET we just naturally fall into a self-destructive process like this? 1.) See a hot girl. 2.) Talk to her. 3.) Get her number. 4.) AND NOT GET HER OUT OF YOUR HEAD?

This process gets easier with the more experience you have, but DO NOT LET the 4th step ruin you. Humans walk through life striving for the most valuable thing on the planet and this is INFORMATION. It's merely a coincidence that the process of extracting information is called "The Game" or "Courtship". We've coined different steps of this process too with phrases such as Approach, Mid-game, Closing, and more specifically tactics too such as Negs, Canned Openers, Opinions, etc BUT THE ESSENCE IS STILL THERE: You're on a quest for INFORMATION and since you're on this quest do not carry more weight than you need to (i.e. allowing your mind to be consumed by her presence for days, weeks, and months).

You're going to meet hundreds or thousands of women in your lifetime and let me tell you they keep getting better, so why should we snag ourselves on a pretty girl that we see? You can Like her. But don't let her detract from your way of life. Don't let her consume what you do best: THAT'S ENJOYING THE **** OUT OF LIFE AND BEING HAPPY FOR WHO YOU ARE.

Current World Population: 6.7 billion.
US population: 310 million

Trust me. Each one of these people (both men and women) are DYING to see you. They're STRIVING to see you, drink with you, talk to you, have sex with you but more importantly they want to extract information from you. They want to know what your favorite movies are, what clothes you wear, what your favorite color is, where you went to school, who you know. Give it to them. You'll be happier for it. BUT MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL KEEP MOVING.

Don't stop and keep smelling the SAME flowers. Life is a JOURNEY!!!! Move on and smell new flowers, because the human condition DEMANDS this. WHY? Because you're doing this for your own well being AND NOT FOR ANYONE ELSE. THIS IS YOUR LIFE NOT HERS SO GRAB IT BY THE HORNS AND KICK ***.

How do you live the life of a Natural? What I've found is this: LIVE YOUR LIFE AND NO ONE ELSES.

Everyday do these three things. You'll be happier for it I swear.

1.) Laugh
2.) Say Hi to a stranger
3.) Make someone else laugh
4.) Listen to your favorite song everyday

Do these things everyday and not only will you free yourself of any oneitis, but you'll just be happier.


Be Happy. Have Fun. But most importantly just Live.

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Baglady

I like the post, but I admit I'm curious: Where DID those 7 months get you? You never said. Very inspirational though, I approve.

i too want to live on "happy planet" can't find the way though,and i am searching for about 2 years:P

good post i like it.

just wanna say that people not being happy is the main reason why they are on here looking for help.

i personally suffer from depression and am slowly overcoming it. i know its the reason why i am unlucky with the opposite sex.

John

Happy is a choice. You make it when you wake up. Shit happens to all of us, bad things happen. You have to realistically deal with them but your emotional reaction is a choice. If you want to be happy then be happy. Don't make excuses for feeling bad, if that is the case make excuses for feeling good. Did you eat today? Well congrats you beat a lot of the world. You see what I am saying. Just be happy to get what you get.

People magnify everything bad, get over bad shit happens to everyone. When you can have a bad day look bad and go oh shit it really was a bad day, and still be happy you have found something my friend.

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Just another guy from back in the day.

Blogging again living life: http://www.Scienceofnaturalgame.com

Well said, John. I think the "you can like her, just don't let her take over your life" philosophy is a good code to live by when it comes to dating. As an AFC for most of my life, I can tell you, Oneitis has never gotten me anywhere. It is one of the most destructive things that we encounter, even though it hides under the guise of being a good thing ("I'd do anything for her," "She's my reason for living," etc.). But I'm starting to learn that those attitudes aren't good. They come off as needy, attention-seeking, and worst of all, irrational.

If someone finds "the one," that's great. I think ultimately, that's what we're all looking for- maybe now, maybe later, depending on the person- but you're right, "the one" shouldn't take away from who we are. She shouldn't be our reason for living; she shouldn't be our only source of happiness- because if she is, what can we possibly give her in return? We must love ourselves to truly love another.

MONTH 2

So you're happy now eh?

GOOD FOR YOU. Here's the reason why.

The human body is so freaking amazing that it knows when to trick you into a false comfort zone. As human beings we wake up every morning emotionally, mentally, spiritually and perhaps physically naked. We require some garbs to cover up our nakedness because in this form we're extremely vulnerable.

This is called our status quo of the human experience where we gravitate to. Everyone has a natural "normal" or "hibernation" zone where their minds go to find "comfort". It's a NEUTRAL zone. Everyone's is different. But like Poetic, said in the above post this is merely another one of the human body's magical illusions.

Being NEUTRAL is of your own invention.

HAPPINESS is a state of mind. You don't just stumble upon it as if you've just found your lost car keys. It can be summoned instantaneously at any single moment of our waking lives, which is what makes the greatest PUA or Natural AMAZING at what they do. Summoning happiness is like making yourself and those around you smile. You just do it. It's less of about picking up women than it is just finding your own "Zen" Zone.

Those who've realized that the world around them is completely independent of their human experience have mastered something truly few have managed to conquer. And what is this? That all worldly troubles such as, women, money, family, friends, our poor self-esteem, our poor health, our crappy car, house, and ugly bodies are TOTALLY SEPARATE from WHO WE REALLY ARE.

These troubles don't dictate who we are. They DO NOT decide our well being nor do they dictate how happy we are at any given moment. These problems are problems because we've ALLOWED THEM to be. They exist because we ALLOW THEM to exist. We decide when they should BOTHER us. But why on earth did we do this to ourselves? AND more importantly what does this have to do with "The Game"?

Again, this is NOT A SIMPLE TASK TO CONQUER, because this is a complete LIFESTYLE change. I'm not even talking about physical, emotional, spiritual or mental at this point. This is a PHILOSOPHICAL shift in one's outlook on life, which will precipitate a positive shift in one's NATURAL APPROACH to women. Coincidentally women find this philosophical outlook SUPER ATTRACTIVE...But why?

CONFIDENCE. CONFIDENCE. CONFIDENCE. If you know your problems are NOT problems why bleed? If you've realized that your outward sexual radiance originates from inside yourself then you'll shine. When I say inside I mean YOUR BELIEF or your philosophy on life. It's what's allowing you to go to work, to study, to not commit crimes, to pay bills on time, to respect your coworkers, to say "Greetings!" to strangers. Knowing that your way of living is "RIGHT" is attractive to women, because they WANT to be included in your world. Women too want to "RIGHT".

By being happy, smiling, dressing well, bathing, rewarding yourself, exercising, treating yourself to that favorite desert, achieving your day's goals, reading something profound or even by shaking an old friend's hand. These rewards are TOTALLY attainable by anyone, but most incredibly THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. This is what I mean by being Happy. IF YOU FEEL GOOD THEN YOU ARE HAPPY AND WOMEN CAN SEE THIS.

A woman will see that you've been kind to yourself and if you're kind to yourself they just know you'll be kind to them too! So don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.

THE FOLLOWING QUOTE SUMS UP THIS ENTIRE POST:

"That woman was sexy...Out of your league? Son. Let women figure out why they won't screw you, don't do it for them"

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Baglady

HELL YESSS!

Now, I really hope that you guys out there really do: think, have ambitions, friends & family, and a career path you want to pursue. With some guys, and a whole lotta girls, a relationship really is the sole point of their existence.

Job well done sir