| Well there's not really a whole lot I can say without having been there and witnessing the interaction and what all went on... so I'm going to be making assumptions.
First of all, it seems like she was really interested in you, judging by all the communication, and even though hours on the phone with a girl you've only just met is a tad much, I'm going to assume you didn't really overdo it too much since you mentioned her messaging you even when you ignored her. A good rule is just making sure she is calling/texting/whatever you a little bit more than you are her. Something wasn't quite right when you met up with her, or maybe it was just a few different small things, but something has her hesitating since you imply she is different now.
The time constraint is normal, and a good thing to have - for you too. Instead of complaining about it you should have met her halfway on it... you should have said something like "Oh that's perfect I was going to say I have to meet up with/do whatever" also. Even if she's previously been texting you like a maniac and it seems like she's cool about it, you don't want her to think your schedule is completely open for her benefit. You have to show her you have a life full of interesting people/things besides her as well.
Another thing you should watch is how you respond to her. She was very likely communicating interest by telling you she liked how you smell, and responding with "I always do" is a bit much. Anytime she shows interest she is making herself vulnerable in some way. Your response was by no means the worst thing to say, but something better would have been to reciprocate her interest. If you respond to her vulnerability with cockiness she may begin to suspect you are either a jerk or a little insecure, to her it is as if you are trying to brag - which is never good.
Whatever her reasons for her current hesitation, I don't think all is lost since she is still communicating with you, but you've got to go through everything that happened and figure out any mistakes you may have made that day, so you can solidify future interactions. And make sure you don't come off as needy because she's not giving you the same amount of attention, remember to keep your contact in the same quantity as hers or less.
Hope it works out for you. And if not, there's 9 million more to help you perfect your methods. Good luck!
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