I was out at the weekend for my Uncle’s birthday. I was not in my home town, but like 30 miles away. I knew nobody, and yet I talked to several attractive women, and ended up dancing with one. We spent the rest of the night grooving, kissing and affectionately groping each other. Naturally, this got me to thinking about how to approach women, how to pull women, and flirting in clubs.

I was in a different place where nobody knew me, and I could choose to never go there again if I wanted. I found it an absolute cinch to get into the perfect state of mind to be in when you are in a club environment. Do this and you’re going to know how to pull girls with no extra effort.

The ‘No Consequences’ Attitude

Stop and ask yourself for a second, how would you act (in a club) if you knew there were absolutely no consequences? How would you walk? What would you say to women? How would you approach? Would you dance with them, or be afraid to do so? Would you know how to kiss women? Keep it legal here boys – no fighting or other bad ju-ju allowed.

Just think though, it’s like this: I’m confident. I don’t give a shit about anyone else. I’m in charge; I take what I want. I Just Don’t Give A Fuck(tm).

I want to stress here, I’m not mean or aggressive in my actions. It’s more like being proactively assertive. Not being aggressive. Being too aggressive can (and will) make women not attracted to you (unless they are severely messed up – and good luck with that).

I just went for it. I pushed until I got a reaction. By ‘pushed’ I mean I invaded women’s space, displayed non-verbal attractive qualities (see below) and kept at it until I got some kind of reaction. This shows you got *balls*. Women love a man with balls. This is how to attract women.

You gotta go at this with no fear & ride on the seat of your pants. All logical thought needs to be suspended. Suspend your critical factor. Just go for it. Don’t think about your actions. At all.

It’s huge to just assume the belief that you deserve it, and you’re just gonna go ahead and take it. This is incredibly attractive to women. And it is awesome when you do this, you feel like the master of your own destiny. Great feeling.

Bit of detail (some techniques) – How To Kiss Girls In Clubs:

•Use physical-proximity-aggressive, dominant bodylanguage.
•Maintain strong Eye Contact. Huge. Imagine like you are challenging her (playfully but seriously). How would you stare down an opponent in a gunfight-at-high-noon duel? That is how to make the initial eye contact.
•All you need is simple dancing. You need nothing special here. Some guys focus on learning loads of cool ‘hip-hop’ dance moves. All that is, is a distraction. It’s an excuse. If you have the right attitude and physical demeanour (ie bodylanguage), then you won’t need any fancy dance moves. Impressing the girl is not our objective here. Attracting her is. Stop thinking in terms of ‘how to impress girls’.
Being out in a new place helps you get familiar with the ‘No Consequences’ state of mind, and the more familiar you are with it, the easier it will become to get into this state in future.

This is how to flirt with women in clubs. You just need that state of mind. Playfully assertive. Most other dating tips websites won’t tell you how crucial it is go be in the right mental state. Massive key, even when you are talking about how to date women.

Your goal should be to be in this state of mind as much as you can when in a club environment. Soon you will be pulling girls consistently when you are in nightclubs.

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I agree with u Joe...

I wanna elaborate on the eye contact, This is a VERY important part of the attraction when you in a club. A club is loud and distracting, but when you look into a females eyes it will take her away to a different place so to speak. and pay close attention to her pupils because if the start to dilate that means she fallin for you.

Big up to u joe i like watchu had to say.

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Nice post Joe. I will be repping you quite highly after I make this reply.

I'm just going to again, reiterate on how effective the strong eye contact is.

One time when I was in a nightclub, I was actually dancing with one of my good female friends, (social proof) while dancing I was looking at another woman who was with her 2 girlfriends, looking right into her eyes, not appearing creepy by thinking of what I'd like to do to her in the back of my mind.

She locked eyes with me and it was on from that point!

Make strong passionate eye contact. It works almost like an opener...after a good stare into each others eyes, you should feel easy about being able to talk to her.

I ended up laying this girl a week later. She was a 9.

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problem with Eye Contact is you can get so used to getting it that when you see a girl you really, really like and she doesn't look back at you - it can piss you off, lol... some are just oblivious - they are too busy dancing or something to notice. Some don't appear to notice but next time they see you in a club, they are giving you serious eye contact.