OK, I have a date for a party at my house Sat night with someone who I've known for about six months, and we've had to plan far ahead to arrange time together. Someone fairly new that I've been sort of unexpectedly hanging out with recently (over the past few weeks) has also decided to come to the party (it's an open-invite sort of thing). I made the date with the first lady friend before me and the more recent lady friend started hanging out together. I haven't technically laid either lady, but one or both may have the intention of spending the night with me. (And no, a threesome isn't an option, both of these women are potentially relationship material.)

I have no exclusivity agreement with either lady yet, but I also don't want to hurt either woman (they are both sensitive women) nor do I want to be dishonest with either of them (one of my vows is to always be honest). How do I manage this?

Dr. Gruuve

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Maybe don't make a move on any of them, but spend quality time with both and inroduce them to a few lady friends of yours in the party or some good mates and explain the situation to those mates and make sure one of them is always occupied by your friends -who possibly don't have the intention of hitting on them- so one is not bored while you are spending time with the other one.
laugh, have kino, but avoid getting sexual or trying to turn them on, and DO NOT GET DRUNK as you might do some stupid shit and regret it later!

Or just gather a big circle of your friends and put these two in the there with yourself as well, and just show them both a good time (no sexual, no pashing, well unless you wanna see who is the more jealous type and who likes you more and would fight to get you, but I assume from what I read, you don't wanna do that).

:S Thats all I can think of, please let us know how you managed and how it al went

Good advice, thanks. The newer lady friend and I have connected very easily...I feel an obligation to be honest with her. I think I should just tell her that I have plans that night that were made before we started spending time together. She may not like the info, but I'm sure she assumes I have other lady friends and I think she'll appreciate the honesty. What do you think?

The older lady friend isn't as connected, but I'm sure she also assumes I have other lady friends. I don't feel an obligation to tell her that a newer lady friend and I have been spending time together (unless things progress). If she were to ask, I wouldn't lie. I just don't feel an obligation to volunteer that information to her since she isn't as connected. I think this is fair and reasonable.

Just to be clear, there's plenty of sexual tension with both of them, so it's not like they are completely platonic friends. If they were, I wouldn't be worried about any of it. The newer lady friend is putting a lot of effort into winning me over. The older lady friend wasn't previously (recently divorced and wasn't emotionally ready for anything), but has recently started to express some intentions on her side. I'm not quite ready to choose between them at this point, but I wouldn't expect it to be too long before I am.

Dr. Gruuve

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Divorced dude having a good life.