i have this weird problem

when i act like a douche to a girl because im not intrested in her she falls in love with me

but when i actually try to game a girl i seem to create the opposite situation

i think it could be that i am natural quite mean and when i try to game people i try to be cheeky but i cant be outright mean to a chick im gaming

advice?

Are you serious? Do what works, ditch what doesn't. Ignoring girls creates the image that you are exclusive, so whenever you portray too much interest, you come off as low value

face fuck some of the girls who are in love with you.


the others won't seem so important afterward.


hahahaha

this is common. its because your behavior changes around a girl you are really into. your care-free attitude is probably going out the window when you really start liking a girl, you start worrying too much about f*cking it up. i have the same thing...most guys do..its about not letting your emotions control your behavior.

its the girls you DONT want that are wrapped around your finger because you display ultra confidence and value to them as you genuinely just dont give a shit. this is extremely attractive.

the solution...watch your actions closely and treat the girls you DO like in the same way you treat the ones you dont care about. be less outcome-orientated.

Seriously, those were answers?

(Last post excluded, that was good!)

Man, you act like you are not interested and have choices when you are in fact not interested. That´s attractive. Imagine all the AFCs that would be happy to get any attention from any girl.

Then when you play you show interest, they think you are just like the rest of the lovable losers.

People running natural game often have this "indirect game / MM allergy". No I am confident enough to go natural, I never had any problems... Well guess what, now you have this problem. Why not try to disqualify yourself a bit while gaming a girl you like? Take the best parts of the MM and keep doing the rest just like before. This is my advice to you.

Visionxxxxxx had it exactly right and he was also right in pointing out that it is very common with most guys. Fact is that if you act like you aren't interested with girls you actually are interested in then you will create attraction. It sucks because you are suppressing your feelings but the way I look at it is that you have plenty of time to tell her how beautiful and cool she is when you two are cuddling after sex.

Its because women respond to the "bad boy" better than they do to the "Im needy and I want your approval" guy.

Think about what kind of a guy do you like to hang out with? Do you like to hang out with a guy who is needy and is holding your shirt wherever you go and follows you like a puppy and tries to get your approval OR do you like to hang out with guys who are themselves, are enjoying themselves, are laid back cool guys who can introduce you to a lot of people and you know are strong in themselves?

Obvious.


When you behave like a "deuche" you project that you are independent, deceisive and that you have standards in your life. That you can say NO and that nobody will fuck with you.

On the other hand, when you behave like a clingy wuss bag who is trying to get some from the stunning girl, you start projecting that you are needy, undeceisive, that you dont have any standards, that you would let her stomp you and that you are basicly a loser in life.

Everybody likes winners. So be a winner.

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Well guess what guys.

Once your inner game is good enough you can skip the bad boy act and go back to being a good guy.

Its like this kind of ladder.

1. I am a good guy.
2. I could be a good guy but I choose to be a bad guy.
3. I could be a good guy choosing to be a bad guy but I choose to be a good guy.

Or.

1. I let people take my power.
2. I dont let people take my power.
3. I got enough power to go around, help yourselves.

I don't understand your post. Did you proofread it? I think you are onto something, but the wording is very confusing. I am not insulting you. I want to understand what you have to say.

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After a long and hard crash and burn I have a new theory on this subject. Please enduldge me.

Step 1: Understand and accept the Game of relationships.

Step 2: Don't show the girl you are interested in her.

Step 3: Be able to never see the girl again. (Your mind is going to trick you)

Step 4: Ask on a date. (You are not mistery method)

The hardest part is number 3 because you will imagine her never being with you. That is where the infatuation comes in. I suggest to overcome this by recongizing the emotions associated with it.

When you get motivated to talk to her, ask yourself: Do I want to talk to her for pleausre or am I being forced to because I am afraid that she will leave my life for good if I don't.

Answer that question before you talk to her.

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He he, did I write that? Yes I can see why it is confusing.

1. An AFC would love to get attention from any girl. They treat them like princesses. In a girls world that is common practice, they have seen it before. 99% of all the nice guys will take whatever they can get and cant afford to screw up with anyone because that might be their only chance. So they are sooooo nice to everyone they find.

2. A bad boy, asshole, douchebag, annoying guy etc. (and also PUAs) do not act that way. Why, because we have a choice. We can afford to not treat a girl like a princess. We just go into the next set and try again, no biggie.

3. The girl can sense that you have choices, the girl will not go for just anyone but for people they have to deserve. Why would you treat her like a princess? Because she is valuable? She has no value until you have a relationship with her.

4. Treating girls like princesses can only be done after they are important for a good reason. Not because they are hot.

5. Desperate = bad

Hope this clears the stuff up a bit.

Ezo

As everyone else is saying, you act like a douche you are ultimately saying to yourself "this is just some chick who holds nothing over me and doesn't matter."

If you can go into a convo with a hot chick in that same state of mind, she will be dripping wet for you just like the others.

Ugly chicks are women. Hot chicks are women. It's all pink on the inside.