What i mean by this is, whenever i see a girl walking by i'll catch her eye and usually hold it for a second and then turn away because i'm worried she'll think im some creeper starring at her... thats just one example, I just feel i'm WAY to worried about what people think of me, My appereance, my tone of voice, everything. I don't really smile big because i'm self conciouss of my smile for some reason, I often don't talk to people because im afraid they might think "Why is the weird kid that sits infront of me talking to us?" I'd love to just stop caring what people thought of me, but i just don't know how...Anyones help would be amazing, thanks.

a little back story : I'm in college and this is generally where my issue comes into play.

Hey there,
work on your inner game, i recommend you to read D. DeAngelo and also http://www.the21convention.com/2009/09/ ... t21c-2009/
There's a lot on this forum about inner game, just look for it.
You need to realize that whatever you think of yourself, you make the people around you think the same way.
Cheers
Jez

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Jez said things well enough, it's all about inner game.

A good way to not be that "creepy guy" when making eye contact with a girl, is to smile.

If she turns her head away in a cold fashion, laugh. Why? Because she's in your world my friend, and she was looking at you after all wasn't she?

I have David D's inner game videos. Very interesting, but if you can't find that stuff. I think being self conscious is a pretty normal thing when you first start approaching women. Just know you have friends, that think your pretty cool, if you don't believe that just ask them I'm sure they do otherwise you wouldn't be friends.
Thats proof that your cool, so once you capture a girls eye, just walk over and start talking to her. She'll think your cool too. Don't question yourself just talk about anything you can think of, movies, music, restaurants, pets, anything really.
Don't be afraid to hit on her, thats why your talking to her, just do it in a playful way, and open and get a conversation going first. Don't be afraid to make sexual jokes either, you probably make them all the time with your friends. Turns out women like sex too, and they joke about it also.

So there you go, good luck.

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Well . . . can you smile at your cafeteria lady and tell her "thanks"? Can you smile at your mother when you go off to school? Can you smile at that brand new snowboard you've been eyeballing at the shop for a while?

You can SMILE on these instances because a smile is JUST a smile. You're not thinking or worrying about making out with the lunch lady or your snowboard later on. You smile because it's simply the natural thing to do. A smile is just a smile. Enjoy it and let it happen. Don't think about opening, approaching, or even saying "hello" for now. Just smile. She will ALWAYS smile back because smiling back to a smiling face is also a natural thing to do. (Well, sometimes, the insecure ones will drop their eyes and look away but be sure . . . they are smiling inside!)

I'm alot like you in the sense that I never had a lot of confidence and didn't act like an alpha male when I was younger. When I was younger in highschool I was one of those guys with natural game and it worked well for me. The biggest tip I can give to you from my own experience which may be wrong is to not only flirt with attractive girls but flirt with girls your not interested at all....Girls you don't find physically attractive ...older women etc Once you start getting in the mode of having good conversations with women in general conversation with attractive women will naturally flow.

There's definitely a lot of ways to go about this. Building a better frame for yourself, really figure out who you are, and be comfortable in your own skin is really what this is about. If you don't like the way you look in the mirror, or the way you behave, change it. You also have to change that little voice inside your head, and stop calling yourself a creeper, lol. Seriously, if you think you are going to be a creeper, then you're subconsciously going to act like it.

It takes a lot for some people to be comfortable in their own skin.

And if you're down for it, smoke a bowl. It will loosen you up

Wow, thats exactly like me before I started..

Man, in conclusion, you gotta get on the path of becoming a full person, you gotta get on a path of developing yourself and evolving yourself.

I can not give you a one single answer here, because there isnt one. Come to grips with the fact that this is a real world, and you are the only one who really gives a shit about you.

Nobody else.

Cus if you dont, and you stay like this.. there is nothing good that is going to happen with you. Youre gonna fuck ugly chicks, chicks will choose you not you them, you will spend your life mastrubating infront of interenet porn and a last edition of penthouse..
You will be unattractive to yourself and to others, people will look at you like youre weird and at the end you will die a miserable lonely guy.

Just because you refused to go through a short term pain to become somebody. If you decide to not live your life like a loser anymore, but you choose to become somebody, youre gonna get women that you never thought possible, youre gonna get people liking you, finding you attractive, looking at you and admiring you.. living your life like a rockstar, having women in every town, traveling, experiencing life in full and than getting old, happy that you did something about your life, sitting next to your beautiful wife and kids.

So work on yourself. Make it happen. You have the power. No one else.
I can see you have a lot of issues, but those issues can be solved quickly.. Im talking about days quick. Those issues that you have are really easy.

I reccomend you get some David Deangelo stuff, start with his e-book, than move on to his Man Transformation program.

I think that David d. is the only guy who can really help you get your stuff together. He helped me enormously.

So get moving, start working on yourself. Start with what I suggested. And make us proud.

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