ive looked over other forum sections, but feel uncomfortable with some of the things you suppose to say... it feels too structure. for the naturals out there ....

- how do you typical approach?
- how do you fix your body language or how do you use words to build that level of attraction and interest?

I just wanted to see how natural game is done, i mean i understand its natural but what do you feel works the best from your experiences.

In my personal experience, being a natural is a direct derivative of confidence. All the openers, and routines are just made up to help you feel comfortable talking to beautiful women, and with this comfort comes a confidence. You need to understand that naturals are those who have always had success with women, so they dont need to think about the things we do. For naturals its not what you say, its how you say it. Women can smell neediness and can tell when you are scared of them. You need to approach women fearlessly, think of them as just any other person on the planet that you would walk up to and say hi to. You need to approach each girl as one in a billion, dont think about every girl you walk up to as a potential future girlfriend, just think of her as a game. Each girl you walk up to is just another peice to your puzzle and each one moves you a lilttle bit closer to being king of your domain. You cant be afraid of rejection, if she blows you off, big deal walk up to the next girl you see and try it all over again. Gaming women is not a game of words and tricks its a game of numbers, the more girls you walk up to the closer you get to reachin your ultimate goal.
Body language is easily fixable, just go out and watch the guys who are naturals, see how they positon themselves relative to the girl, how they carry themselves and then go home and try and emulate that. Stand infront of a mirror and say the things you would typically say to a girl, see how you look, try different orientations in relation to the mirror, different facial expressions and see what works for you.
Hope that helps a little

Get THE NATURAL GAME by Gambler, you will get an idea, there are too many things to explain fora post

V3nu

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Really nice post

But to answer your questions

1. "Hi I'm *name*." Girls know why you approach them.. they aren't stupid.

2. Body language is the only thing I think about while talking to women.. No stories, no negs, no games. That and a strong innergame is enough to win a girl over.

Hey quakebks

You've heard all the terms

- Be fearless
- Just go up confident!
- Be yourself. Just go up and say Hey.

These answers are honest, however, they are from people who do it on a continual basis.

YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW THEY GOT THERE

Right?

Yes. It is structured.
The structures are there to give you enough confidence so you go up and have an experience. That experience creates a positive reference in your mind because they will no doubt respond well- they've been tested and proven

BUT.....

You cannot rely on structures all your life, agreed?

If you are like me then you think long term. You want to get the inner stuff sorted now so it all just flows....

So how did these "natural"'s become unphased?

EXPERIENCE

You are probably coming from a place of insecurity and low confidence. However, that doesn't shift what you have to face.

You will undoubtedly go through humilation, embarassment and rejection- these are the consequences.

All you can do now is ask yourself- How much am I willing to endure these consequences to be where I want to be?

Because as you go through these experiences- whether you use the safety net of a structure, or a line just like "Hey!".....you will no doubt be knocked back now n again.

So.........can you do that to build experience to create certainty (confidence) in a situation?

If not- then you're stuck on your safety net...

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You do it by going out, being honest and interacting with allot of women.

Being observant of your body and reactions, and your communication. Then going back to the drawing board and looking at positive psychology, or reading a book on being a man, and evaluating yourself constantly and thighting your ability every cycle you go through.

You also have to know always where your stand is in life, what your doing, where your going, and what you currently will offer to the world and every person you communicate to.

You have to also focus on your feelings, and learn to trust them and use them to communicate effectively with other people and women.

Allot of grounding, allot of knowledge, and allot of honesty and constant going out action!

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honestly, i think natural game is done more so in clubs than in bars from my experience.

in a club pickup, there's usually little verbal initiation. i usually try to create a good SPAM around myself - whether its moving a through the club giving a solid high five/hand shake to random people regardless if you know them. in that kind of SPAM believe me, no one will decline a simple whats up. or should groovin' and dancing in the middle of the floor, showing everyone around you what a good time you could be. i sometimes bust out some goofy moves like the sprinkler or the thunderclap ha (NEVER grab your feet, you'll be a joke). once you've settled in, maybe even had a few drinks - girls should look at your more. if any girl really glaces at me i take the initiative and approach them, not really saying much other than a wassup, i start to dance with them. after a couple of dances, its usually safe to ask for their number.

in a bar its a little different. if i ever see a girl i am interested in at the beginning of the night, i see it as an investment. like i gotta work all night for this girl (doesnt mean im not working game on others) just like little things. what i usually do is do some a couple walk by "hey" 's or a nod from across the rooms - real simple stuff. from what i've experience she'll usually approach you with soemthing "hey". i then usually pull the mistaken identity thing, and call her a random name. works great, cause i usually apologize with soem great kino (hugs are awesome!). mistaken identity, i guess is a joke on these forums? but i donno its one of my favourites, especially when meeting someone new - success rate honestly to number close is well above 80%.

if she comes up to you and says "do i know you?" - experience tells me im already 'in'. so i just straight up be honest, who i am and that im interested etc.

natural game is somehting that you cant really read from a book, you just gotta go out and try try try try try again. work on your ability to talk and adapt to your environment. try going out to a bar with the intention of gettin rejected - you'll probably see that your a lot better than you thought.

the easiest place you can work natural game is also at your "safe place". the place you spend a lot of time at, a place that your really into. whether you like books or art or cooking. the people that share the same interests as you, will allow you to use your knowledge on that topic. thats natural game.

The above are excellent responses.

Really, it's about no expectations and not really caring about what other people think.

Go to the local shopping centre (mall), now! Chat with the cute shop assistants, make comments to other shoppers. Speak before you start thinking, 'how is she going to respond to me?' You might come up with a faux pas every now and then, but that's normal.

A natural, imho, is just a good conversationalist who has no expectations - they're genuine and that comes across in their body language and tonality. Other people will react to the vibe you give off. Here's an experiment: go to your local shopping centre and smile at people with closed lips. You'll get people smiling back at you... with closed lips. Now give big smiles with your teeth showing. Guess what you'll get back?