A girl I know through a friend keeps in touch from time to time (generally, only, when we are going to meet up with our mutual friend). I had a gut feeling she liked me and we all went out last night and I recieved some non-verbal signals... nothing obvious though! I dropped her off last and was trying to think of some way of getting a "date" just me and her, but I dont want to be to obvious about it.

What should my next move be?????

(it's not oneitis, I have just spied an opportunity ) I am trying not to be to obvious at this stage... I need low risk stuff!

Thanks.

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You'll learn very quickly that in pickup(and life in general) nothing good comes without risk. You will probably be most successful with this girl if you are more direct.

But since you said you're not ready for that, I suggest you invite her and make it seem like she was a second choice. Like tell her you have an extra ticket for something, or you had plans but another friend bailed at the last minute and you want to see if she would be interested in going with you. Or you can try the group thing again, but isolate her this time.

You realize though, that if you continue on this "less obvious" course that your chances of ending up in the friend-zone increase dramatically. So when you do have her alone, you better game her in a way that makes it clear that you are a man and not just a neutral friend.

Just ask her out! Word it so it sounds like a date - 'Can I take you to dinner sometime?'

That will probably remove all doubt and give you a Y or N answer.

Just ask her out! Word it so it sounds like a date - 'Can I take you to dinner sometime?'

That will probably remove all doubt and give you a Y or N answer.

I like that idea. I will give it a go.

If anyone has anyother ideas that they think will work post a reply.

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Learn the principle, abide by the principle, and dissolve the principle. In short, enter a mold without being caged in it. Obey the principle without being bound by it. LEARN, MASTER AND ACHIEVE!!!

yeah, it's easy for everyone here to simply tell you to be direct. Of course, that is what you need to do, but the intricacies are whats important. You can be direct and very casual too, just say hey you wanna hang out sometime? Make sure it's not with buddy, get some alone time. Get her number, start texting etc. Go from there

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some will rob you with a six-gun, some with a fountain pen...

Just a simple casual statement. Like "give me your number so we can go for a drink sometime." Or if you drop her off last again ask her to do something at a specific time and place. "you should come rock climbing (or any other activity) with me on tuesday (or day)."

Being direct is key. Get her alone and just be yourself. Remember you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Have at it buddy,
B-Man