This I consider to be the worst thing to happen when I'm talking to a girl...

This is where in my mind I take a step back, review the situation and imagine how I must look when I'm saying these things to the girl. Or try to look at things from the girl's point of view. This throws me off my game and is normally a instant conversation killer.

Has anyone else had this kind of thing happen to them? And does anyone know any techniques I can use to avoid this happening?

(SQ)Diablo

Yes.This happens to me a lot.
One day this summer I had a communications counselor analyze how I give a speech to correct subconcsious and concsious habits and I told her that I do that as I speak.
She said its something similar to what Budhist do in one of their meditations.I forgot what its called but its very good.

For picking up girls though,its bad,so what I try to do is I make believe I have a friend a couple feet away watching me.This friend is very good with picking up women and is teaching me all about approaching and coaching me before and after each set.
So when I approach Im practicing picking girls up in front of him.That way even if Im rejected I go talk to him and he fixes my mistakes and I(we) try again.

This really helps me because I actually know a person who helps me out in picking girls up(but he has a waaay different way of approaching women-suuuper direct) so I just imagine hes there.

Try to find someone in your life and if you dont imagine Mystery,Matador,Style,or even Barney Stinson!If none of those connect with you give your subconscious a name and body and let it be your coach in what you do.This really helps.

It sounds kind of insane but it does.Hope this helped!

I use Barney a lot. Once I take that frame of mind, and start to psych myself out, I take a breath and ask myself. What would Barney do?

The TV dinosaur?

Lmao no from How I Met Your Mother.
Barney Stinson.Legendary.

how-to-be-a-better-conversationalist-vt ... reewriting

Really good thread.