Girl I been seeing at work for 6 months, well we never really went out properly only a few times because she was still in love with her ex so she didn't want to jump into anything. I tried to give her some time to get over this and made only a few moves on her. We talk often and are good people. She just doesn't like people thinking something is going on at work.

I got annoyed with her recently because she started being funny with me at work, got all uptight because I made a move on her even though she was giving me the signals, invited me to her birthday party a week ago and cancelled last minute my invite(either I didn't sound excited enough or she wasn't serious) and then started putting a picture of some guy on facebook as her profile pic. Today at work was weird, she changed her timetables to avoid me but made some excuse to why she did this.

She approaches me and smiles but I kinda upset and asked her why she got up but she said that she had to go. She said lets sit in this room(away from others) so we did and it was like talking to a new person she was different somehow. Eventually we left and I started kino bumping into her and she started resisting then randomly got this handwash which was on a nearby wall and put it in her hands, she then rubbed it on my forearm as an excuse to touch me.

I laughed and made some joke then she started name calling "freak" "weirdo" I tried to think of something and called her "nutter of the century" which she kinda smirked at since she has bipolar but I didn't mean it personally. I made a few more jokes and asked her if she had any more handwash and she said "It's gone, you had your chance and you blew it".....shit test or not?

She walked off and then I was expecting her to be there at the end of work but she was saying how they might finish earlier where she was or not. I said alright and then she walked through the door gave me a cheeky and flirty smile/grin and waved.

Forget the shit test. There is a bigger issue here.

Sounds like she got you chasing her and you keep chasing.

I agree with that, but was it a shit test and should I bring ask if she meant it? since she has been acting like I've something big has happened between us when I've been quite a good guy with her.

No dude. Don't EVER bring it up. If you've had another thread about this girl in the past, I recommend that you drop it. No girl has feelings for her ex that override feelings for a guy she's interested in right now. You've lost your chance and you need to accept that.

That said, and for future reference (NOT WITH THIS GIRL. I MEAN IT.) she may have been inviting you to escalate in that other room. You should have done so. Even if you didn't want to kiss at work, you can touch her more sensitively. Even just putting an arm around her and talking about the future works great.

It could have been a shit test, or you could be overanalyzing. Either way ya blew it so ON TO THE NEXT ONE.

I asked her randomly and she told me that she was joking.

I saw her again at work and for whatever reasons everything feels a little awkward like we just met eachother or something, kinda a dead feeling and we both seem nervous. I tried to be cool but felt kind of stand offish and cold but eventually got a bit closer to her(like you were saying she might of been inviting me) around work and touched her ass as I opened a door for her lol.

I think I have some resent for her even though I care about her alot, its something to do with how she treated me whenever I would approach and now it feels weird approaching(like being rejected by a random girl at a club) but I hope things will change.

I tried bringing up on the phone about us and told her that we have a connection, she backed up before I could say much more and because I was really direct but I just wanted to let her know that I was serious about her. We got on the train later on and she didn't say alot, she doesn't look comfortable around me and sometimes I do feel it's because I can be quite serious(depression,moods) she her usual cocky wave and I went over and gave her a hug despite her not leaning in and she was like "take it easy"

I do like her alot, but it's got to the point where distance has cause a barrier, and her going off with other guys is not helping. I noticed one thing though and that was she kino alot more when she saw me in "cold" mode.

I don't know how to put it more clearly.. but still for your sakes and ours, I will try to..

SHE IS NOT INTERESTED.

She's just being trashy with her indecision. The whole inviting you and then cancelling? That was poor.

Also, you're reading too much into her waves and smiles and her touching. She might just be thinking of you as a good buddy from work, is all.

Her whole persona changed when you made a move on her. She went ahead and put up picture of another man on her account and changed her work schedule. Was it not clear to you? She is trying to tell you that she just doesn't see anything happening between you two.

And the truth is that you are responsible for this, your whole hugs and hesitation to physically escalate with her, and I just can't understand why you haven't made it clear to her that you are in fact, attracted to her. Depending upon her answer, you can see where you stand with her and then, move from there.

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Oh I've told her I'm how attracted and make it very obvious. Kino the hell out of her everytime I see her and I did make a move and she rejected the kiss close so how is that not escalating? she doesn't give anything back during this.

Well, if she doesn't give anything back during this, you have your answer.

Move on. Game someone else who does give back.

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Well she contact me again today. DLVing herself about how she got fucked on weed and fell asleep in a ashtry. She also mentioned her phone contract and why she only txts and says the only reason she doesn't call me like she used to is because she was on contract and then said to me "What you think I'm that bad?"

WTF?

come on guys, stop calling this onenitus.

the bi-polar kinda did it for me

lol took me awhile to realise where you got that from well she never actually said it was that but her mum has it and she told me how she tried to take her life a year ago and she was feeling depressed recently.

+1

Bro, game over. Don't read into the little things when the huge ones are staring you in the face.

She seems uncomfortable when you try to escalate. She rejected a kiss. She hasn't been talking to you on the phone. When you turned a conversation romantic she avoided the subject. She has interest in other guys.

GAME OVER. Who cares if she said her contract is weird? That's so minor compared to these signals. SHE CLEARLY ISN'T INTERESTED. Use this as a starting place from which to improve.

She told me today she met her ex, txt me "she done something stupid" I said to her what did you do. She goes "nothing but he tried to kiss me" now my tone was loud and serious. I asked her does she see us as anything more than friends. She said "We could be but we are friends now thats all" she kept asking me what I should do. I got serious and said "All I know is I wouldn't go back, I'm being honest and I'm a not liar, I want to be with you so it's hard for me to say"

I said to her I understood and that "I don't know if she appreciated that I waited" she said she "does appreciate it" and said to me "What should I do, what should I do?"

I was quite serious with her. I didn't want to be but I had to ask whether it was going somewhere or not and she said "I wish I could give you that answer"

I have a feeling she is going to leave my work, she has dropped hints of this. Is there anyway of us being anything? last thing she said to me was "I'm not ready, I'm stuck in the middle" and that was that. She said we are friends and work colleagues at first I was like "I think it's different when u are a man and woman" we went to work the next day she contact before it, the whole day was up
and down with us trying to work and talk through stuff.

She dropped comments like "give up" "enough is enough and stop" randomly when I told her something irrelevant to us and then we both nearly burst into tears at the same time. We spent 30 minutes holding back tears.

You are done. Game over. There is no future with this girl. Even if you COULD sleep with her, it would be an exhausting and emotionally draining roller coaster and no doubt end badly. Happy relationships don't start this way. Move on, like we've all been saying.