This girl's had the same boyfriend for like four years. I never met the guy but I've seen many pictures of him, and I do feel a little bad about making moves on his girlfriend. If I was the boyfriend I would already be mad that my girl was so motivated to see and spend time with someone else. At the end of the day, I am willing to take her away from her boyfriend, and I live by the moral that it is her commitment and not mine.

The problem is that I do not know if she is interested sexually. I keep thinking that because she has a boyfriend she must not be willing to have sex or that if I make a move she will start avoiding me because she didn't want our "frendship" to go down that route. But then in the back of my mind I feel like she MUST want something more out of me then just a friend to talk to. Last night she met me at a bar and we talked for a couple hours, then I walked her home and I stayed at her place until about 4 in the morning when I got a cab home. I was doing kino all night and holding her hands and hugging her etc. but I was too scared to move in for a kiss or to really test the waters verbally.

Anyone know how I can test if she would be willing to cheat on her bf? Any way I can learn beforehand? Should I work my usual game on her? (my game is to basically say what I think, which means complimenting a lot and avoiding risky negs). Should I know something verbally before I start to kiss her because of the bf situation? Are most girls willing to cheat? Is there any other reasons she might want me around?

It sucks because I could have easily made some moves last night as we were both drunk and we were sitting together on the couch really really close. I thought about it several times but didn't do anything. She brought up her bf a few times over the night but I didn't say anything about him when he came up

I'm in the same boat man. If you haven't read up on the straw man technique in one of these boards, it's worth the time. If you follow that and are getting encouraging signs (she denies that he has the positive qualities that you say he has) then I say go for it. Worst case scenario you get rejected and just say that it was a mistake, you were attracted to her (having had a few drinks may also help your explanation) but don't want to hurt the friendship. Any girl would be flattered by that.