It will be a long story, I hope I wont bore you and that you can help me out

So, there is this girl I've always liked alot, but because she had a boyfriend, we were just friends (usually only saw her on school and during clubbing, we met 1 time in private). There always was alot of sexual tension between us (I always treated her like I treat girls I want to make out with if you think of dancing/eye contact etc.).

Recently I turned up the sexual tension with her while clubbing alot, making more eye contact, and we did alot of things that girls I kclose with did too. All this happend without me having 'feelings' for her.

Recently, she broke up with her old boyfriend (they've had a relation for around 4 years) and when I woke up this morning, I knew it: I had oneitis.
I think because she had a boyfriend, my feelings were like: w/e, we're just friends.
But now she's single, its a whole different story.

I'm affraid that I'm in the friend zone though.
Still I'm gonna try it.

I wanted to do approach, dance with her for a little while. then leave her for a while again and come back, dance some more.
Then go to other venue to get some shots with her (use this as excuse to isolate her from her friends, I isolate her alot, without intentions of closing her so it won't be too hard). Then say: oh, we could actually check this venue out, go with her to another place, dance with her, turn up sexual tension till the moment SHE pulls of the first step in kclosing (so she cant blame me for trying it etc., just to save myself from troubles incase I get rejected).

Is there any advice you guys have for me?
Or should I not even bother doing this?

And a final thing: How long does it take till a girl is recovered from a 4 year relation?



Hope i t's not too confusing, my english is pretty bad
Thanks in advance!

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help me people!

Hey buddy,

First of all, 4 year relationship I'd give anyone a good 6 month window.

Second of all, if you're friends with a woman and want to turn it into something else, then you really have to be willing to lose the friendship with her in persuit of the opportunity to date her.

Why? Because you can play all the subtle games you want, but most guys waste years of their lives being subtle and trying to slowly win her attention. Honestly, if you want to break from friend zone, then you need to stop behaving like you're in friend zone, and start behaving like a man who wants to date a woman. You need act with your testosterone in mind and be direct with her about what you want, you probably want to be a bit persistent as well, allow her to say no, and tell her you won't give up. Give it some effort. That will either win her over (yes persistence is very sexy, but DON'T be needy, or desperate about it, tell ehr in no uncertain terms that you want her, but don't need her) OR it will ruin your friendship.

Too many guys in your position become lovesick puppies and follow her around and try to get her interest that way. It doesn't work.

My honest thoughts though, are that you will ignore the fact she's going to need to rebound, you will try to get into a relationship with her and you will get hurt down the line even if she does like you and gets into a relationship with you.

You're in a situation where you are asking for trouble. Be warned