I was looking for a bit of advice on this girl. About her, she is pretty shy and quiet (librarian type), not a barstar, but really nice and pretty fun to be around.
I met this girl about 3 years ago and thought she was really cool but never pursuited her because her best friend had a huge crush on me. A few weeks ago, she was on Facebook and posted photos of her trip to Barcalona so we started chatting up and I suggested that we meet up sometime, but had to head out right away, she texted me her number.

I messaged her back about a week later and asked her how her weekend was - No response. (kind of odd and out of character)

I ended up seeing her at the Mall a few weeks later and had a quick chat with her. Ended up texting her and having a nice text chat, she told me she didn't text back because she was at work when she got the msg and forgot to text back. Had long text messaging convo and ended up meeting for dessert later that week. I had a pretty fun time, and I think she did too. However, I wasn't 100% sure it was a date or just "old aquaintances" hanging out.

I didn't text her for about three weeks (and neither did she), and I texted her last night as I found out that one of my friends was seeing her sister. Had a nice chat, and she is really talkative on text, responds back quickly. I say that we should meet up when I get back from my trip and she seems pretty interested - I get back in just over a week.

My questions for insight for advice are..

1. How do I get in contact when I get back - and whats a good second date idea after going for dessert the first time.

2. I find that when I talk to girls I have a hard time making a "Connection" rather its a bit "talk show host" interview-ish. Any tips for this?

3. Any ideas of trying to get a feel for if she is into me or not? She is not agressive in nature so it makes it super hard to tell.

1. Stop texting. Call her when you get back, chat a bit, and then set up your day 2. If the weather permits, go to the pool. You get something nice to look at (I'm assuming), and it's easy to play and kino in the water.

2. Find things you both care about, common interests and passions. If you passionately talk about things that are important to you, you energize the conversation, and she'll most likely catch on. Also, just relax and stop worrying about it.

3. I'd just flirt, tease, kino, and escalate. The more you do, the more of a reaction/indication you'll get. If she's not into you, you'll notice soon enough.