Well I started a topic on how this girl I know wanted a bad boy. Today I hung out with her and it was pretty boring for the most part.

She was not allowed to leave her house so we just chilled and played video games. Before that we tried talking but it seemed like it wasn't going so well. When we were alone I leaned in for a kiss and she pulled away.

The first thing I said was "you're not gonna kiss me" then I said " I was just gonna kiss you on the cheek" which led to her to moving her cheek towards me so I kissed her there. The rest of the time felt pretty awkward.

I was really confused cause she keeps acting like I am her boyfriend then she did that. She said "don't be mad" when she told me that she messaged her ex for some reason so I really don't understand.

What exactly did I do wrong? Is there anything I can do to fix this?

I feel like my heart was ripped out and set on fire. Really depressed now.

your heart was ripped out and set on fire cause you got rejected by a kiss??? what i read was:
-bored at her house
-couldnt start a good conversation
-went for kiss

im not sure if you should expect a kiss if the mood is bad/shes not having a good time/no comfort/no flirting/no escalation. maybe when playing the game after you win be like wanna rematch and bump your hip into her or shoulder playfully and flirt a little and get her talking and having fun THEN try for a kiss.

I was being flirty and gently touching her shoulder and stuff. It just kinda sucks being turned down for a kiss but I do understand why it happened. It just took a shot at my confidence at first and had me doubting myself when it happened. Now I guess I got to move on from it and either try to fix things with her or just move on to something else.

I should've done other stuff now that I think about it and I have no clue why I didn't think of your game idea. Thanks for the advice though.

You shouldn't have let it bother you, or made that excuse afterwards. You could probably have kissed her later on if you hadn't said that, but because you seemed pissed off about it you put her off.

You say she wants a "bad boy"? Act like one. Escalate and stop giving a fuck whether she rejects you or not. Don't pout or get upset if she does, just smile, carry on like it didn't happen and try again later. When she turned her cheek I would probably have grabbed her face and pulled it around for a full on kiss. Don't let her make you feel ashamed or embarassed for making a move, as long as you're persistant (not in a needy rapey way) and don't let her resistance bother you (notice I said resistance and not rejection) it's actually probably going to make her feel more attracted to you than she was before, and you'll be more likely to succeed later on.

Thanks for the advice. I'm obviously not an expert with this stuff so at least now I know better. We've actually been texting since then and I've been acting like it never even happened. I'll probably just let her go though and maybe just start off fresh with another girl if I decide to. Kinda have other girl troubles involving my ex with whom I still have feelings for so I'm not even sure if I want anybody else right now but that's another story.

Girls are just so confusing sometimes and it drives me crazy.

Thanks anyway. Really appreciated.

This was kind of said using different words but it felt awkward because you felt awkward.

Resistance makes you stronger.

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I'm no expert either mate, but it's always attractive to escalate persistantly and not let it bother you when she resists you. I'd try a few more times before letting her go, don't use the ex as an excuse not to. Yeah they are confusing, just try not to let it affect you. Be persistant and just keep going