ok so I will be taking this HB9 out on vday week and she's super busy with school/work and i've only gone out twice with her in the past 2 months..
first time we met, did some light kino but not much response and she created a barrier by putting her feet up on my couch when we were watching a movie at my place so i didn't escalate and I was a bit hesitant since it was our first time meeting.

second meeting went for coffee then talked inside my car at parking lot.. tried doing some trust test by having her hold out her hands and rest on mine and then asking her some questions.. her hands were stiff and wouldn't lower when I lowered my hands so I told her she doesn't trust me. She says its hard for her to trust people and she starts mentioning how touching hands and hand holding is really special to her and she doesn't do it w/ just anybody.. so i didn't escalate after that..

third date... i dunno how there's even going to be a third date considering how poorly I thought I did the past 2 dates by being a "gentlemen".. We agreed to go out to dinner on wednesday, which is 2 days after vday. Now what should I do and where should I take her? and how do I kino when she straight out told me she's not into casual hand holding? Once I hold a girl's hands I know it's on and I can lead it pretty far... but no hand handing = I'm lost..