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Hi everyone,

Last Friday I went to a party, there were about 20 girls and 25 boys. I was sitting on a chair and Girl 1 (Please look at the whereisat.jpg) had the following conversation with me:
G1: Hi Justin!
Me: Hi Kim!
G1: How are you doing ?
Me: I'm great, thanks! What about you?
G1: Me too.

We had a few more words but I can't remember. Our 'conversation' ended and we continued talking to the others sitting on the couch. Although it wasn't a long conversation, I do think she was flirting. (The way she looked into me eyes and laughed at the things I said)

A few minutes later another girl joined us and I smiled to her and said hello. We talked about the holiday for 1 minute, and then our conversation ended again.

I then cycled home with another girl, we laughed and had a 5-minute conversation, but I would still like to know what I should do next.

Thanks for reading, have a wonderful christmas time!

Hi Justin,

Firstly, this is a great start! You've made a perfectly solid start to the conversation...

The next thing to do is transition. Transitioning is a form of escalation, in that it is moving towards a deeper level of intimacy. If you stay on the topic that the conversation started from (in this case, 'How are you') then the level of intimacy will stay the same.

So how to transition? Change the subject to something more intimate/ personal. It doesn't have to be 'I like rough sex' - that would be too much too quickly. In most cases it should be something just slightly more personal, such as....

G1: Hi Justin!
Me: Hi Kim!
G1: How are you doing ?
Me: I'm great, thanks! What about you?
G1: Me too.
Me: Actually, I've had a really great day today, I just went Christmas shopping for my ..... blah blah.....

in response to this transition into a slightly more intimate conversation, Kim would probably start telling you about her day...

The rest of the interaction should follow the same pattern. When you feel that you are both comfortable at the current level of intimacy, change to a higher level of intimacy. This should also be reflected in your body language, level of contact, and the place you are in. At some stage you'll need to lead her to a private place, like a bedroom, because you'll be ready to initiate sex....

Enjoy!

Thanks for the great response, Alex! I've had two parties this month. At the first party, I had a 'How are you?' conversation, and at the second party I had a similar conversation with the same girl.

Is this a bad thing? Or shall I just use the transitioning next time, and will everything be alright?

Thanks in advance