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| swagkid91 | PostPosted: Sat Dec 25, 2010 8:45 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Dec 24, 2010 1:25 pm Posts: 11 | | So background: I know this girl she likes me and I like her. We've done stuff also like hold hands, and have madeout. But the problems start with 1) She's leaving in 5 months, 2) We aren't really official due to her friends and outside differences and 3) She texts this other dude a lot.
Story: So i confronted her about this dude. Kinda blew it by being pissed off and then she gave me the speech of needing me but as a bff. So i back off, but when i backed off she got pissed off at me, tears etc. To me this shows she still wants me but even more she still constantly texts me even though i don't respond. Also a major side note should be that she gave me the speech of only being friends a long time ago, but then she admitted to me she's attracted to me which is when we did the sexual stuff. So guys I'm confused as to what to do. Is this a bad case of one-itis? Do you think she still has feelings for me and could be trying to hide it like she did before? And if you think I should continue after her any tips on getting rid of this potential other guy? Any help would be appreciated btw I have a little experience but I think I'm still AFC. Thanks in Advance.
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| atomicglow | PostPosted: Sun Dec 26, 2010 6:29 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sat Dec 18, 2010 12:57 am Posts: 43 Location: Napa, California | | Okay...you didn't give me much to go on here but this is what I am surmising. You have this chick you like but is leaving in 5 months. She sounds like what she wants isn't a BFF but possible a FWB but clearly doesn't want you as her exclusive boyfriend as evidenced by this other dude in the picture. Let me start off by answering your questions. First..YES you have a BAD case of oneitis...think about it...you are getting all broken up about a chick who is CLEARLY close to another guy AND who is leaving in 5 months!! Think about it...even if you DID get this chick away from this other guy, she is gone in 5 months. She definitely doesn't mind having more than one guy at a time so when she is gone, what do you think is going to happen? I can tell you...you are going to pine away the hours wondering what she is doing, who she is with, she will use you as an emotional crutch when things are bad and she is lonely and she will put you on the shelf when things are going great for her...the classic BFF (aka AFC). It just isn't worth the time or energy. Long distance relationships are built on a foundation of equality and symmetry especially from an emotional standpoint. To me it has all been one sided...you being deferent to her needs. I think she has "feelings" for you BUT...I think she also has feelings for this other guy and God knows who else! She clearly is playing more than one guy...and I think she is push-pulling you with affection and physical closeness to get her emotional needs fulfilled. As far as tips for getting rid of the other guy...PUA's don't give a shit about other guys because they are so confident in their own game. Back off...if she "cries" about it, set conditions as to what it is you want...she will either comply or not. The bottom line with ANY relationship is this...JUDGE ACTIONS NOT WORDS! Good Luck! _________________ Atomicglow
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