For the first time in about a year and a half I developed a crush on a girl and like all the other times I lose my head, frame, and composure with her. Long story short, she has a boyfriend, she is interested in me (definite IOI's), we get along very well (i love being with her), I create sexual tension to stay out of friend zone, and most importantly--we've both admitted to each other that we like a challenge (she said she has her boyfriend wrapped around her finger and he's too "easy")

We now have winter break and I was certain if I hang out with her I can get with her. But since I really like her and want her I have become an AFC. Here's a sample text convo from today to show u what i mean.

Me: Hey guess what?
Her: what?
me: I just saw a girl wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you
her: haha u shudve asked her if she time traveled from the 80's
(not the response I was looking for)
me: Idk but her dork capacity almost matched urs
(joke from before about her being dorky and me thinking its cute)
her:Lol
(I usually stop textiing if a girl replies lol or haha but I wanted to talk to her....i know)
me: how's ur break been?
her: ehh ive just had gymnastics and thts it hbu?
me: I can see you've cut loose haha
(attempt at neg and creating mystery about what i've done)
her: lol yea
(not response i wanted, again)
me: what are u up to later?
her: im having brother sister bonding nitee lol
me: wow how bored are u? lol
(again wanted to neg her for such a lame thing to do on break)
her: lol my bro can be entertaining, i dont mind. its the holidays
me: haha i needed help christmas shopping but u got a fun night planned lol
(idk what i was thinking here. christmas shopping?)
her: Soryyy
(i was pissed when she said sorry, don't make it seem as if you're turning me down bitch!)
me: No worries hah
(wanted to make it seem as if it didnt bother me, even if it did, best i could do)

I havent been so stumped with a girl since before I learned about puas and all that good stuff. I don't know when to txt her, what to say, and how to get her to hang out just the two of us.

Any help on my situation is greatly appreciated.

PS - I would really like some advice other then find another girl because I really want her and I don't want to work for anyone else at the moment.

Sorry to break it but to get her you are going to have to go after other girls. And this won't guarantee you'll get her. But you'll gain social skills and probably find better girls.

What do you mean this is you first crush in a year and a half? What age are you?

You can't develop oneitis over a girl, talking and interacting with her the way you do will get you stuck in the friend zone. Don't text her like that.

Don't discuss your problems, her problems or general day to day activities with her.

You said you create sexual tension to stay out of the friend zone? How? What do you do?

Since she has a bf you have to be with other girls to show her some social proof. Texting and return.g to meet her isn't gona cut it. Get with some girls and let her see you out having a good time with them. If she likes you like you say / think she does she'll wana be those girls. You said she has her bf 'whipped' basically, but you're acting whipped just chasing this one girl

I feel you my friend, I have no advice because I am as bad as you are when it comes to getting the girls I like.

It's so easy when there are no feelings involved.