| Hey everybody, happened to stumble across this site and I have found it very useful for pursuing new women. However there is one girl that has been driving me nuts, I will try to keep it to the point but any insight you all may have would be very helpful to me:
A little about me: I am a born and bred New Yorker, been living in Cali for the past 6 months, have had decent success with the women here , some are just turned off by my aggressive nature. It should be noted that I am not a "player", nor do I have "game". I stray away from pickup lines and most of my interest is generated from telling jokes or just being witty and comical, which leads the girls to just feeling comfortable enough to go out on a limb and strike a convo with me..
Now about the girl;
So I went out for my birthday with a friend and a group of her friends that I never met before. We did some ice skating then hit up the local bar for some drinks. One of the friends seemed really awesome and I did my best to play it cool, mostly since she was talking to one guy with us, who turned out to be her best friends boyfriend and they were just close friends from childhood. Throughout the night I was getting constant laughs from the group and they all love my accent, asking me to say certain words just to hear how we say it back home. After an hour or so at the bar, she turns to me and just starts shooting the breeze. I throw some test questions out there to see what kind of chemistry we may have and it turns out she plays the guitar just like me, loves to shoot pool just like me, and is very sarcastic and witty, just like me...Within 5 minutes, she's already leaning in, touching my arm, and basically just ignoring everyone else unless she was asked a question or needed a drink.
We go outside for a smoke and right away she says " Will you teach me how to play the guitar? I know chords but I need help!" I tell her I would love to and I give her my number.
Her : Awesome, but just so you know, I'm really shy and even if i like you I will still have a hard time getting the nerve to call you, so you better take my number
Me : Absolutely , but I may be really aggressive and call you tomorrow
Her : You better! I really want to hang out
IF YOU ARE STILL READING, THANK YOU, BUT HERE IS WHERE IT GETS CLOUDY FOR ME
Her : Oh and just so you know, I will not fuck you tomorrow when we hang out.
Me : :::Laughs::: No worries, how about 2 days from now?
She laughed hard and gave me a nice smile
Next Day I text her and quickly I get a response, " At the DMV waiting, may not be able to hang tonight but if not definitely tomorrow" . I'm cool with that since she left an opening for the next night, and as planned we hung out, shot some pool, drank our asses off, and wound up at the IHOP until 4 am. She kept on saying how much fun this is, we gotta do it as much as possible, and she was even setting up things to do in the near future for us, all looked good right?
I let 2 days go by and I text her to grab some drinks again, which she is all about , but an hour before we are supposed to meet, she says her roomate and her boyfriend just got in and they want to double date , key word " date " , so i tell her i'm up for anything as long as she's there. This double date turned into her other 2 roommates just randomly showing up at the bar we are at and joining the party. Even though I don't know any of these people, I was picking my spots with the jokes, getting my laughs and keeping her interested ( or so i thought?). We went to 3 different places that night , and every time she kept saving the seat right next to her for me, and while she wasn't tuning everybody out like the prior time, it still had the vibe that we were clicking. Now this is where I need the help people, its only 12 30 am and this dude says he doesn't feel good and is offering to pay for a cab for everyone to go back home, and since they all live together, they all decide to go. I take the cab ride back with them since i live a few blocks away, and i got a big hug on the way out, BUT since this was our second time out, i was really hoping to make a move at some point, but in a group setting it just didn't work that way.
The next day , I text to see how she is doing with everything, and she says "great, had so much fun the other night, we must play pool soon!!". I left it at that, thinking i'm in good shape but now I am thinking this is where I messed up. I have waited 2 days to see if she wants to go out, No go , " I got plans with my girl, but soon! " . I let 4 days go by to generate some time for her to miss me , " Oh i totally would but I am busy tonight, next time!! " THEN i decide to just forget about her for a bit altogether and see if she contacts me, which has worked in the past. OH BUT SHES SHY! Wait about a day or so, shoot her a text, no reply. To her credit , my text was pretty bad, something along the lines of " Hey beautiful, had alot of fun the other night, can't wait to do it again" . Another 2 days , text to go out, and her response is " Oh i have to work, but soon!!" Since then i sent one more text that wasn't responded to, and since today is sunday and i know she gets off early, I am thinking about taking ONE MORE shot at it and if I get no response or a no , I'm done with her.
I know that is alot to read, but this is a unique case for me. Anytime I get half of the results I did early on, it has always led to hooking up, but again, she told me straight up how shy she is so here is my question for you all ;
If I am going to text her in a few minutes to see if she wants to go out tonight, what should I say as my last attempt? Any help is appreciated
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