So I like this girl, and she likes me too.

I hung out with her and left my scarf on her back seat.

In the mean time she went for coffee with a guy friend of hers. I think the guy likes her but I think she really sees him as a friend..From what I can tell the guy likes my girl and wants to seduce her.

So the point is, she lifted him back to his home, and he took my scarf with him.

There was a big snow storm, so I could understand him wanting to use it and return it. But she told me he said he wanted to keep it, that he thought it was nice.

She said she would get it back for me as soon as possible.

Now a few question arise :


1- Why would she let someone take something that belongs to me.
2- Why would the guy blatantly try to keep it when he knows I know he has it.

I know it's just a fucking scarf, but the situation is very weird. I feel like getting it back myself and punching him in the face.

What's the best way to handle this situation, should I be mad at my girl friend for letting him take it?

She said she'd go pick it up tonight before going to the club and I said don't kill yourself over it you can get it later. She said ''Would you rather I hang out with him tommorow and get it then?''

Then she tried to act like I was being jealous, when all I really wanted was to get my belonging back, even if it's a 25$ scarf.

That's really fucking weird. Are you sure this girl is even your girlfriend? The way you tell this story, I REALLY don't trust this girl at all and I also want to punch this guy in the face. Unless the guy is a homo queen, I don't understand why he'd act like that, this story doesn't fit together at all, I get the feeling the girl is lying to you to make some kind of retard drama. If it's like you say, one or more people in the story really don't like you.

I'd say be suspicious of the girl, tell her off for GIVING YOUR SHIT AWAY, and make sure she fucking gets it back, post haste. But also be a little understanding, because I guess girls lend/borrow shit with no intention of getting/giving it back. Explain that's not how straight men work. You are sending the message that it's not a big deal if she lends your shit out to random people and that's not okay with me (if it was me).

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31 and still figuring it out.

This is basically what I'm thinking.. Shit is weird. I tried talking to her about it and she acted if I was over reacting. I'll try to get her to explain how she let him take my scarf and leave. I know where he works I'm really fighting against myself not to go there and confront him, he'd shit his pants. I saw him once while I was shopping with the girl.

Just explain that property is different for straight guys than it is for girls, it sounds like she really doesn't understand and that's why she thinks you're making too big a deal of it. It's possible this guy is actually just closet gay and really likes your style. There's too many unanswered questions to blow your top yet, just have her get it back for you and make sure she knows not to do it to you or any other guy again.

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31 and still figuring it out.

I actually bought an other one and told her to tell her buddy that was my xmas gift for him..I made it sound sarcastic.

I see her tonite I'll try to talk to her about it.

It is just a 10$ scarf, but it's just the intention behind the gesture.

Your over reacting, you didn't have to buy another one, you dont have to keep on bringing it up or confront anyone. She may draw from this that you get upset at little things (although i would have been ticked off too). It seems to me that you guys are in a fairly new/not yet exclusive relationship? you have to play cool, let her know that you want it back and you dont want her SPAM your stuff-but dont blow your top.

What could be happening is the guy is trying to belittle you in the eyes of the girl, classic school bully tactics by stealing and keeping your scarf... that would suck but you dont need to freak out until she tries to get it back and she is unsuccessful-then showing up might be in order.