Lately, there is a girl who keeps telling me these things, like she doesn't understand I got the point ages ago. Like she can't trust me, but actualy, does she trust herself?
I'm a realy flirtable guy. There are always some girls who thinks I like them. I always laugh when I hear them say that. The last few months, I realy kino a lot and use much of the anti-manifesto of 60's: keeping the tension in, looking seductivly, push&pull, let her qualify, being non-needy, ...
There is this fun girl I met, but she told that she doesn't want guys and relationships because of a bad relationship she once had. She calls her self almost asexual, she calls me "mate" very often. I'm like ok, I might be friendzoned, even although I know there's tension, but I can be friends with her, since I'm a freshman in a new town and she might be the perfect winggirl and introduce me to a lot of parties and girls
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But due to my personality, I still flirt alot, I can't help it. She knows I'm like that, but she still has the feeling she needs to repeat subtly all the time that she doesn't want guys anymore, she calls me "mate" alot and such. I always think like "yeah, duuuude, you made your point ages ago." However, I always respond good to those shit tests, by acting like it doens't touch me what she says.
Last night, after not seeing each other for 3 weeks and by letting her being spontaneous etc, I forced her to start taking contact and she called me to meet and I invited her to go out with me and my friends. We had fun and talked a lot, however, she did say the same BS things again. In compamy of my friends, she had to repeat her story about she doesn't want guys anymore, blablabla. She wanted to do a deal with me, but only if I wouldn't do the J-move on her (refering to guy "J" who tried to kiss her a few times when he was alone with her in her room. She rejected him repeatedly. Basicly she asked me not to do a move on her).
When being in the club, I was just having fun and when I started dancing with her, I took her hands and was just doing a bit crazy. I didn't even had intentions, I just wanted to have fun by dancing and it was quite innocent.
But when things started to be fun, she said "no, this is going to far." Duuuude, how you mean I go to far? I saw her flirting with some guys sometimes, but not kissing them and ejecting a lot. Sometimes she touched me to get my attention, or puted her arms around me, but I wasn't reactive. I ignored it. I was shosing I had a lot of fun. But when a bit later I felt like dancing again, and we were dancing, she said it again "we should stop, this is going to far."
What is that supposed to mean? I realy like raising the tension and I'm not apologetic. I flirt a lot, but I do that with many girls, and she should know that. Is she affraid that she can't trust herself, to break her own principles of not wanting a guy in her life, and me raising the tension sometimes is threatening her principle, her "asexuality"?
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