I had this close female friend I have known for 6 years. She was an HB8. One night, things got intimate when we were out. Her legs were over mine, she was whispering in my ear, we cuddled and danced like a couple. At the end of the night when I told her I should go home, she said "You could spend the night at my place if my parents weren't coming home this night. My bed is large enough for 2 people." next to her bf she has been having serious problems with.

I was inexperienced that time and was afraid to make an advance. I remember those times now and just kick myself in the butt for letting go of a girl who was ready to sleep with me. We went our own ways 3 months ago because she thought me and her are too close and that might ruin her relationship with her bf. I blame myself for being a wussy who values his friendships and avoids getting intimate with this girl at that time. Now, I am able to see the picture from a totally different perspective.

I would like to hear some advice and comments on how to escalate with this girl again and take her back to the intimacy we had. I think it will be easier because we are no more titled as "best friends" but more difficult since we do not talk much because she is on guard, protecting her relationship.

Ok first, Do not accept this excuse, A Good Example is: A Natural freind of mine fucked this girl(i think on more than one occassion!),he is freinds with her, her boyfreind hates it, actually her boyfreind said she cannot see my natural freind anymore! But still she arranged to meet up with him, purposly finds him at work ect.... (actually if i remember correctly he has done the same thing with 2 girls... there 2 boyfreinds are so jelous they are even threatening to beat up my natural freind if he sees them again!!)

My Point is, (and yes the short story is 100% true) it really doesnt matter what her boyfeind thinks, man the hell up and just continue to talk to her, and be freinds with her, keep it discreat if necasary.. or be like "so you are not allowed to have male freinds"....

But we are not close like before. Do I just try to establish kino, flirt and escalate from there? I don't think she will respond the same as she did before.

You could try something like txt/phoning her and saying "Did you miss me ??".... OK you havent spoken in 3 months but seriously if you where as close as it seems she isnt going to have forgotten you in 3 months and is probably going to have wanted to phone you at points during that 3 months.... SO do something about it...

Thanks man, I will give it a try.