after a while of not seeing her or talking to her, i decided to invite her for a pool game, and she replied "lol youre silly"
which kinda told me to fark off in a way.
i didnt give up, next day i text her "hey goofy, join the silly boy for lunch tomorrow?"
and she agreed, we set up the time at 11:30
she texted me "should i text you when my class is done?"
i said "yeah sure. meet up at X"
and she said "sounds good "

so, for those texts, i could tell that there are some ioi's going on and yeah i farked up before with that girl but thats like another chance i thought.

her class ends at 9:20 im pretty sure and thats why i took it as a big ioi that she will wait for 2 hours :/

well guess what, she bailed without even saying anything or texting.
at 11:30 i called her ans she didnt pick up.. its 2pm now and im pretty sure lunch is over by now and she either forgot or ignored it.
but i mean, thats kinda rude in my opinion.. you can at least say "i changed my mind im not coming.." or "i have to leave because....." anything........

then the next day, closer towards night time, she texted me:
"Heyy X im so sorry about not meeting up with you, things have been a bit crazy lately, my next door neighbors had a house fire, it was really bad "

Is this farked, or is this farked?? what should i say or do now.. ignore it and move on or be like "are you okay" and sh!t?

I thought about being mean and say "Shit, I told them specifically to throw the molotov at your house :/ guess I'll have to hire professionals"
or maybe "So instead of eating lunch with me you burnt down a house? "

The "farked" part is that you keep saying "farked" ffs just say fucked.!
That's really funny! But could be inappropriate if the story is true, which has a 95% of being not true, and a really messed up lie.

But yah, in my opinion it's a double edge sword, maybe she was planning to meet but didn't want to wait 2 hours, and didn't know how to turn you down, as she already turned you down the previous day.

Personally I would maybe wait a week, take it easy, if you are at school I'm sure you will see her again, or just invite her to a more social scene instead of a "date theme", pool, lunch, etc.

I dunno the whole story but just a guess: maybe you showed too much interest too early as school is a much different environment, and like Braddock says "Live to fight another day when you are gaming in college", meaning don't close the deal right away, the chances of seeing each other again are really really high.....

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You should do the last response. That's hilarious. It also lets her know you know she's full of shit. Housefire or not, wasn't she supposed to text you when her class got out? What, did her neighbor interrupt her during class and she rushed over to the burning inferno to help out? Pure BS, don't put up with that. She should have just said her phone died or she left it at home like most female liars. Either way, sounds like she's not interested, you don't have anything to lose.

got a text back: "Umm its not really something to be joking about.."

lol gave over hhhhhhh

lol! Just text back the famous saying 'if you don't laugh, you'll cry'.

Then maybe see her around school like mentioned before and give her a social invite to a group thing in a few weeks.

i dont think that's gonna be funny lol
i mean, by her respond, she clearly isnt happy with my message whether or not that whole thing was a lie..
i dont want to make her my enemy lol, so either give me like an extra funny line that will kind of smooth everything out or ill just leave it at that and hope that one day she will run into me and start begging to give me a bj

Give up. It's kind of an ugly thing when a person can't even joke about it when they've been caught in a lie. At the end of the day she blew you off, I thing it DHV that you had a sense of humor about it.

haha, please tell me you didn't send those!

They are really funny, but have you ever stopped and thought about the fact that the fire is actually true and how much of a jerk you'll come across as if it is?

Give her the benefit of the doubt, arrange for a different meet and if she flakes again you'll know the score.

btw, did she try to make other plans when she cancelled this one? That's always a big ioi. If she didn't then she's either not interested, or 50/50, either way you'd have to step your game up.

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Crap, I must have been in a shitty mood when I posted that first response. I totally overlooked the fact that she texted you back even though you didn't initiate contact. That does indicate interest, however small. Coldman is right, the proper response would have been to give her the benefit of the doubt and try to reschedule. Still, my gut says she's lying, it still doesn't make sense that she didn't text you after class per the original plan.

i did send her: "So instead of eating lunch with me you burnt down a house? "
got a text back: "Umm its not really something to be joking about.."
and i didnt reply. pretty much ignored and moved on.
then next day i decided that i should be apologetic now, so sent her "sorry for the off colour, was bummed you missed out, maybe you can make it up to me sometime" as you said and after 25min she replied "Its ok, yeah I know.. sorry about that again "

clearly she ignored the "maybe you can make it up to me sometime". but i dunno.. the fact that she replied is weird to me :S

but ffuck lol gave over

and im taking summerschool, i got a job, and moved to a new place so lots to do.. and this girl is the only thing i have time to hit on cuz im already in there and dont have time to sarge, get numbers, and all the story all over again. im there like 30% going down hill, how can i go up hill from here? just wait for her to text me (which will never happen)?

Masturbate. I think this one's in the can. Lets look at the facts. She didn't take you up on shooting pool, she didn't offer to reschedule after the "housefire incident", and she didn't take you up when you tried to reschedule. That's three strikes. Maybe she just wants you to be the man and pick a time and place. So, pick a time that is good for you and a place you like and give it one last shot. Just don't obsess, which is easy when it's all you have going on.

so you think after:
- canceling on a date
- once going for lunch (that i paid for)
- i canceled on another date that was supposed to happen cuz i felt that she would
- flaked on pool game and on this lunch together

i should still give it another shot?
i mean, now that i listed all of the flakes, out of about 6 tries, 1 happened and it was the very beginning.

i mean, if i try once more, my self respect wont allow me to come of as needy to this girl! yeah i want her but i dont want to beg for it.. you feel me here? i remember once i told her straight up "hey listen, ive been thinking about... us.. and you know, i want more than just hanging out/studying after class for a bit"
and she said "yeah i just want to take it slow"
and that there made me think quite a bit, what exactly that meant.

she never says no, everytime i ask her lets go somewhere she says either ok or "cant this day can we do it any other time?" but the fact is she never said "No!"

and im not thinking too much.. i ruined 90% already, i dont want to ruin those last 10% that i got left in my situation (where i have no time to sarge)

if you think that i should try once more, i will. what should i do?

Your whole situation is kinda confusing to me, but anyway, concerning the chick; I think you messed up already, or she just wasn't interested. Maybe it's her fault, maybe she only likes bald, fat guys... who knows. It's a numbers game.

What does matter however are the facts; she doesn't show up, she doesn't reschedule. Ask yourself this, if she WAS interested, would she still act in this way? or would she WANT to arrange a future meet up, because she's interested in seeing you again?

Woman almost NEVER say "No" to your face.... now I'm going to give you a quote from the movie Hitch. For 3 reasons
1. It fits the situation.
2. Hitch is an awesome movie.
3. I like quotes.

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well you pretty much said it all. i didnt mean "No" as actually saying no.. but when im asking "join me for lunch tomorrow at 11:30?" and the respond is "Well I suppose I can do that..& where would we be having lunch?"

you know that shows me that she is down to meet up. i dont really hear the "Get away from me now.", what i see it as "well, you've been trying to get me for a while, ill give you one more shot" and then she changed her mind i guess

anyways, im going to delete her number tomorrow and officially forget about her. concentrate in school more and maybe meet new girls as i go.

But I will be back

Yeah, how you said it, is how I saw it too. Still, you should never delete a number, I always put an "F" next to the name (it stands for flake), so that I know not to text/call her for a while. And try some zombie game

If you've never heard of it, read up on it here... I've never tried it, but I can imagine it working, especially with woman who tend to give out their number a lot.
http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2009 ... m-the-dead

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