Hi Everyone, i'm a newbie and after lurking for some days here, here's my first post.

I'm trying to convey some DHV to a girl ( she's 20 around a HB7, i'm 30 ) over facebook, we have met IRL and she gave me 1 or 2 IOI , so i'm trying to convey some DHV.. here's how the conversation went.

( Bare in mind this was my first attempt to use DHV since i'm still reading Mystery's book )

I was telling her "a friend is chatting with me over msn because he caught hi GF with another girl... would you consider it cheating ? "

She explains her point of view ( wich is irrelevant , i just want to bridge this into a DHV story ) .

And i'm like " You wouldn't believe how many friends i have asking me for advice on so many situations, i mean, i'm very loyal to my friends , but some situations they ask me advice for are crazy "...


i continue " this one friend asked me once what he should answer to a girl after she texted him asking him out " .. wich she replyed:

" It's normal, it's friendship.. people are very insecure nowadays "..

and i replyed: " i don't get it.. but i must be good putting peace of mind on others minds, otherwise they wouldn't look after me "

And i finished the conversation with " We should get a coffee sometime, since i'm going on vacations this thursday "

She replyed something like " Good for you "

And i finished the conversation.



My question is, i'm trying to pass the idea that my friends look for me because i'm their " tribal leader " , i'm a secure guy , a rarety nowadays , but the feeling i'm getting is that my DHV attemps were a bit poor and didn't work on her.

What kind of aproach should i try on her?
Neg her a bit ? She's a barmaid on weekends on a bar i usually go to, so she has like 50 guys hitting on her every weekend , so maybe if i neg her i might grab her attention , and mix it up with other DHV stories?

Get your cocky&funny working. That's some David DeAngelo material... google it, and you should be able to find enough information
Why should you use that? Because it is useful for building attraction, and because it's fun

You're doing the MM, you're saying. What stage are you in with girl? Male-to-female interest (A2)? Remember each stage requires a slightly different strategy. What you're doing now is more the comfort-thing.
Remember that it's hard to express the right emotions through online interaction, not to mention the lack of kino. Use it to setup a day2 and use it as a time bridge. Normally IM-conversations will stall quickly.

As far as your question goes: A neg could be useful if she is used to get hit on, but maybe a bit of ballbusting is good enough. If executed well, A2 can be done in very short amount of time.
Now, go finish that book!

I think FB limits your game massively as the other posts have said, no kino and no BL. Get a day 2 with her and talk in person.

Failing that i'd go for something more like...

HB: asks a question....
you: Answer question.
you: Ok seriously do i sound like a social worker how I answered that question?
HB: Er no, why?
you: Well I know friends are suppoosed to talk and help each other out but i've had like 5 messages in the last 3 days from different friends askign for some advise on real life changing stuff like should i marry etc etc. I mean is that normal?

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Tony T

simple key shit short - you shouldn't be worry about how to dhv over the internet that something u do in person. So does us all a favor ask her out and game in REAL LIFE!!!

Uh, I think your close for the conversation was too abrupt. It just seems a bit weird to see an opener put out on FB. But that's besides the point.

Try not to go "Hey we should meet up sometimes, I am doing...so and so..."

I find that girls are generally more responsive to something which starts with them. So I'd go with: "What'cha doing this thursday afternoon?" If she is free then suggest a meet up, if she isn't just relax and let it be. Either ways it can't hurt, but at least you don't put yourself in a spot by saying that you are available at the time first. (:

My 2 cents.