I think I became obsessed with value and negging and showing active interest, and willingness to walk away etc. etc. etc.
And now I'm finding very tough to build rapport with HBs (and people in general).

I have this in my mind, that if I start asking questions it will feel like an interview and back to AFCish stuff. Or if I try to seek rapport with her, the same, back to being an AFC, and being a low-value guy...

But what I'm realizing is that I'm just missing the essence of having a good interaction and the essence of relationships... which is... RAPPORT!

It's ok to break rapport or don't seek rapport when you first meet a girl. But after you feel like she is becoming invested, I think I just need to put aside some of the 'high-value guy' and maintaining status theories.

Anyone have this problem as well? You feel you had the girl somewhat attracted, but failed to build rapport because you thought it could make you look like an AFC and low-value guy.

Thats the problem with some of these techniques, they work for certain people better than others, when I first started reading up on PUA I too also started negging people in order to promote alpha male status within myself, however this came across as rude and alot of people didnt like it. The most important thing with PUA to remember is just be an enhanced version of your true self. Dont tweek your whole persona (unless of course you either wnat to or need to) just tweek it to make you more attractive as a person. Project all your good qualities more and care less about other techniques that may not suit your natural style.

try playing silly games.
examples:
-Plam reading
-run the cube
-thumb wrestling
-how many 9's in 0-100 (most answer 10 or 11 if they think thier clever, but the answer is 20, as they forget 90,91,92 ect)

or if you really want to go in depth mimic her moves, this is imo the most simple way to create rapport, but dont make it obv, like if she waves too some one, dont wave too them also (unless you know them) make it subtle, take a sip of drink when she dose or scratch your head in the same place she plays with her her (this is also an ioi).

these should build rapport and not DLV, if anything it will DHV.
let me know how this goes.
Goodluck and have fun.
Lach

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