Hi guys. Anyone got some advice how best to handle this? There's this HB9 that I really like. I feel I've been making some progress with her, building rapport, etc. Then she suddenly dropped all contact just under two weeks ago so after a few calls and texts without reply I did what I guess any PUA should do - stopped calling or texting and moved on. Well, OK, not completely moved on - I do like her a lot after all.

Then this weekend I got a text from her apologising for not calling me back, she wasn't being rude, etc. Turns out, her grandad who she is very close to is gravely ill in hospital and she's been spending pretty much all her spare time there. Some mutual friends confirmed this and that she had been quite down and withdrawn because of it. Anyway, we had a chat in which I expressed my concern, asked her if she was OK, etc and she seemed genuinely grateful to hear it. I didn't say the usual "if there's anything I could do" because it just sounded cliched. I sort of closed off with "Try to stay positive; I'll be thinking of you."

I'd like to contact her again in a day or two just to ask how her grandad is doing and how she's holding up so I can keep communication going but dont want to come across as opportunistic and insincere. (I AM genuinely sympathetic as I went through a similar situation about a year ago when my own grandad died)

How would you handle a situation like this? What would you say/do or not say/do?

Thanks

Usually in situation like this you usually try to get there mind off of it not literally... but u usually say im sorry then ask a question like where u guys really close... let her talk about it and let it out... then from their u should take her mind off of it.. the more people usually talk about something bad the worse it usually makes a person feel... I usually transition with something like "so will everything going on hows ur school,work,whatever been" they usually talk about whatever from there go back to transition into jokes, rapport, and then try to pull the date I would try to pull it like I heard about this such such place I heard it was AWESOME maybe throw some details about the place, and then lastly hit her with you know we should go out to the place it will give u some time to relax and get your mind off the stress ... if she is like no about the situation because she is still spending time with her grandpa... then tell her well when things slow down we can make it happen... then make a joke like hopefully u will beat nikki (some random girl name to the punch) then she will be like what say ur joking and laugh it off...