Hey guys,
So I'm pretty new to this stuff, haven't seen the Mystery shows or anything like that. My older brother is faaaar beyond me in terms of game, and I've been feeling like i need to step mine up. I went to the club for the first time in a while for an acquaintance's birthday and met this girl through a friend. After Only talking to people the whole night, because i don't quite have to courage to approach yet, I FINALLY mustered up the courage to ask the girl i met to dance. By this time she was pretty drunk already and i'm no dancer so I was just moving with her as best i could. As i was dancing with her I was trying to think of things to say, sp I just ended up asking her questions and commenting on how drunk she was. Somewhere in the convo I tried to play a game with her about knowing each others names, because I can't remember names for the life of me. Anyway my cousin came over and told me we had to go, so I asked her for her number but got shot down. She pretty much put her hand over her mouth and said "I don't know you that well"

I'm such a beginner that I don;t know where to start. I know that I need WAAAYY more practice, but in terms of the club scene, what exactly are you supposed to talk about when you are dancing/ grinding with a girl, and how do you deal with a drunk? Any help or any criticism is welcome and even appreciated, I really need a kick in the butt to get me going in the right direction.

Well, I don't go to clubs yet as I am 20. But I am in college and in a fraternity. We have lots of dance parties and stuff.

Drunk ass girls are great for making out with on the dance floor. You may even take her home she's so drunk. But I have moral reservations about this and I hope you do too (i bet you didn't expect that from a frat boy!). Plus its unlikely since her friends will cockblock you hard if she's that drunk.

Usually girls will dance with you because they like to dance and have fun, that's it. A dance is just a dance, doesn't mean anything. Or at least I would expect so.

You should have went up and gamed her first before you go dance. Figure that out on your own. Mainly attract and build comfort. You got shot down either because she wasn't attracted to you or was not comfortable giving you her number.

Also work on your dancing. You don't have to be great and busting out awesome moves, but you should at least be confident in it. If you aren't confident in your dancing it will show when you dance with her, and it goes without saying that confidence is key.

What I have learned is it is possible to determine how much a girl is into you by the way she dances. Dance with a lot of girls, then game girls and then dance with them. See the difference yourself. I don't know how the dancing is at the clubs you go to, but at the parties I'm at its always grinding. If a girl has her ass up on you, this doesn't mean a thing. This is the norm for grinding. What I have noticed with dancing with a girl after successfully gaming her is that the grinding is even harder, more touching with the hands, and overall much more sexual.

When it comes to gaming a girl while dancing, I advise against it. Music is too loud, its harder to focus on two things at once, dancing is usually back to front so no eye contact (from my experience), and if you are talking to her while you are dancing she will know you are hitting on her. If you direct that's fine, but this just makes it too obvious.

Dance if you want to dance. But if you are trying to close either game or game and then dance.

Thanks for the prespective and advice. Makes a lot of sense and I will definitely read up more and then try to game BEFORE dancing, not while. And u were right, her friend did try to cockblock but my friend took her away.