HB9 and HB10 are best friends, met them both a year ago. They go to two different colleges each a little over an hour away so they're not in town often, but we exchanged numbers and linked up on Facebook, so we're in contact semiregularly. When they come to town they get in touch and we try to hang. They're an interesting pair because they're two completely different kinds of hot. I was always into 10, and she and I had really strong physical chemistry, so we were always laughing and touching and dancing on each other. Wasn't particularly interested in 9, but she and I have much more in common and have similar humor styles. Actually at first I found her really annoying and had little patience for her, so we developed this kind of bickering mock dislike, and are always goofing on each other. We laugh a ton when we're together, and she would always get pouty when I paid too much attention to 10.

We went out dancing when they visited for the holidays, and as usual I was all about 10, and laughing with 9 when she was around. That night suddenly 9 became REALLY aggressively flirty, got really physical and would follow me around and hold my hand and get really jealous if I was with 10 for too long. I isolated 10 for a long time for conversation and kino, and I went in for a kiss and she very clearly pulled away. Hindsight being what it is, I think now maybe she knew that 9 was into me, because 9 ended up spending the rest of the evening with me.

9 excitedly informed me a couple weeks ago that they were coming to town and expected to be taken dancing. I had other plans and I was actually able to shift things around, but I told her I wasn't available to see if she'd throw a fit. She in fact threw a very satisfying fit, so I pretended to make a great effort to move things around so we could meet. She felt suitably special, and I knew 100% that she and I were gonna hook up that night.

She called and texted me all evening trying to get me to arrive earlier. (When I said I couldn't and she was turning me off she responded "Dick come now" and later admitted she wrote it that way on purpose lol.) When I got there, she was psyched to see me. 10 hung back, and the whole night 9 and I were REALLY intense. Tons of push-pull and heat, and we ended up making out all over the club.

We left together and she asked where I live, which I know meant I should invite her to my place. But, I live with my parents right now and it just wasn't possible, so I said I live a decent drive in the opposite direction. I realize I took a loss there, but I didn't see a way around it. I tried to get her to go to a diner and hang for a while, and she said she was tired and needed to go home. She drove me to my car (I was parked far away) and we made out in her car for a while.

The next day I called her; no return call. I've sent a couple short texts over the last two weeks, and IMed her once on Facebook--nothing. I texted 10 last week with a question about something, and she didn't respond either. I've clearly been frozen out but I don't get why. It's not like I took advantage of some sudden occurrence that night--this was building for a year and had clearly been escalating since Christmas, and naturally over the course of that night. Since we were friends before this happened, and since the interest was mutual and genuine, I really didn't see this being a problem, AND I wouldn't have done it if I'd thought it would end with us not talking. I'm out of ideas, and don't even get what's happened. Thoughts?

Sounds like buyer's remorse to me. Now I am learning this stuff for over a year now, but from my experience, everytime a girl wants to get laid and you kinda put it off, it makes her wonder whether you are really worth it! It has happened to me twice. Flirting and lots of kino... but those two nights I was really tired and didn't feel like it. The week after the girl lost interest!

I think you might have DLV by texting her more than once. In any case, it's time to move on. Carry on with your life. If they plan on coming back to your town, or you bump into them at the clubs or something, just pretend like nothing happened. Greet them like you would an old friend...

I know it sucks, but when friends make-out, one of the them always feels guilty about it and it leads to an awkward situation. Also, you hit on both of them... you tried to kiss the HB10 and then made out with HB9. Don't you think she would have told HB9 that you tried to make a move, and when she refused, you settled for HB9 instead? Girls gossip a lot dude...and best friends tell each other everything.

I tried to kiss the 10 the previous time we got together. If she was gonna tell her, she would've told her before the last time we saw each other, because that night the 10 seemed to be encouraging us toward each other. As it was, when she refused me, I suspect it was because she knew her friend was already into me.

Oddly enough, with all the girls I've made out with and stuff, this is the first time it's ever happened with a friend and been followed by a shutout. I have no experience with it and it makes me sad that I've potentially lost two friends. Do we just not talk to each other anymore?

well you have already tried to start a convo by sending multiple texts right? why not let the dust settle, and see if they want to initiate contact with you again.

A couple years ago, me and my really good friend(girl) got drunk and in the heat of the moment, we began making out and we ended up in the room, but we both just realized and stopped! the next day or so, we saw each other and spoke for a bit, but it was so awkward. After that day, we never really hung out that much. I did see her a few months back, and we just said hi to each other and caught up, but that's it. So yeah, since then i have a rule. Never ever make out with friends who you love to hang out with. It's not worth it.

yeah sounds like buyers remorse..i recommend freezing her out and moving on. you mentioned you messeged her via facebook. if u really want her maybe you could put up pictures of fun shit you do with friends and hot chicks. get girls to comment on ur wall and stuff like that to show her you don't NEED her and to show that you have social value. This has worked for me before.

I'm always doing that anyway. I am *VERY* good at DHV via Facebook, and she knows anyway that I get around and am popular with girls. It is what it is, I guess. I can't make them talk to me, and I'm not gonna chase after them because if they don't care then I sure as hell don't. At some point, someday, they'll show up wanting me to dance with them again. Whatever.