| Hey, I'm a long time lurker, and need some advice.
There's a HB in one of my classes that I decided to ask out, and (against all advice here) decided not to "game" it like usual. I was looking for more than what I usually get, and probably just looked too far ahead.
Things didn't go badly, but they didn't go well. She beat me to saying we should do it (go out) again, but there was no KC or much Kino. I guess I kinda screwed up by being the nice guy rather than alpha-male.
Anyway, we were supposed to hang out today, but she said she felt sick. A week ago, she said she slept in. Neither of these were dates, but still...
She said we should make it up some other time, so I just said "ok, cool." I didn't feel like coming on too hard (I already think I lost the control over the situation, and want to start getting it back).
So I think I'll actually apply some sense to this rather than acting like an AFC. You should never stop playing the game, right? How's my plan sound?
I already showed interest by asking her out. So I can't play too much push-pull without looking a) manipulative or b) insecure. I figure jealousy/exhibiting value is the best bet.
In the class we're in together, I do ok. I hooked up with one girl (6?) who still flirts with me a lot even though she has a bf. I would have hooked up with another (8 ), but I backed out at the last minute and we still flirt a lot. A third girl (5) texted me asking if anything would happen between us if her boyfriend was out of the picture, and a forth (9.5) flirts a lot even though she has a bf.
The class has plenty of lab/discussion time, so it feels like the obvious thing to do is build my value by flirting. I just have to stay away from LJBF..
Finally, yes I'm willing to lose her. There are plenty of options here (I'm in college). This girl is pretty cool, though, and I'd like stop getting in my own way.
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