Some may know i asked a girl out a while ago.

She said yes. We went out for coffee..had a good chat, have a few laughs. I thought it went allright.

At the end of the coffee date i hugged her, she said 'i'll probably see you this week if we all go out for a drink or something'. I said 'Yeh sounds good' and said bye.

Thing is......



The girl does not ever ever ever ever start a conversation with me. Prior to our first date, i noticed she was getting with a couple of guys etc..and when I asked her about these parties she didnt actually tell me she got with these people etc... At this point i very casually brought 'us' up and just asked her of what our little 'sitch' was. At a previous party we'd got very close etc, she followed me round a lot..and she has been like that with me at a previous and the first meeting between us. She said 'um, well let's just see how things roll'. I said 'sounds good'. She said 'Yeah im good with all these little ideas '


But not has she ever initiated a convo...
Should i just man up and keep starting the convos?
Or should i be expect some sort of action from her?
Thing is, from the first time we met..she has never started one with me.. even thought it seems obvious enough she likes me.

Now.. our first date was on monday as I mentioned...I talked to her last night..so the tuesday evening, we talked about it and the funny things that happened etc in it., and had a good chat. Lasted about 15 mins. she was generally very responsive which was good.

but thats the thing though. shes a confident girl - i know this. and everytime ive initiated a chat..we have good ones. on occasions we talk dirty lol which i guess is good.

Hey DC,I really hate to give advice to seem like a know-it-all but...

I've been through similar situations where I had to initiate every chat;be it via text,call,messenger.Why does it happened,I haven't pondered it.

But I can point out ssome critical-minor mistakes that you've made early.

1)You're telegraphing too much interest in this chicc!!!When yall chatted about about setting up another date(a drink I think),you seemed more excited than she was at the proposal.You said it'll be cool?ice or whatever you said!You should've been more unattached;"I'll have to checc my schedule". You weren't a challenge for her.You're still not a challenge to her that's why she doesn't feel an urge to initiate the chat with you.

How to get her to start convoos and show more interest? Stop contacting her so often!Don't ignore her but ease the hell up!Give her time to wonder,to miss you!

And stop showing so much interest in hooking up with her!!She's probably thinking that she's your only option so she doesnt feel an impulse to chase you.She's chasing other men-the ones who aren't chasing her(lol)!!!She's initiating convos with them because they aren't initiating chats with her(that often at least)

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i have to agree 100% im in the same boat dude. if i dont talk to her for a while shel text me (girls never start messenger conversations unless they are bored duno why)

another example is... i gamed a girl. didnt speak to her... saw her at a party talked briefly. then 2 weeks later she texted me and ended up coming round and we made out!

but the girl im trying to get with SPAM... we were going really well but then i spoke to her for hours on facebook... texted her... then tried on facebook again today... she actually didnt even say n e thing back... probably suggesting that i stfu so she can miss me

and i know you'll have the urge so bad to give her 1 quick text or summit but it shows too much interest and i have learnt that now... just get her outta your mind and she'll come back to you which is always a great feeling.

and you havent messed up yet... although to you it will feel like you've died inside that you 2 aint texting... to you what will seem like a day (which is really an hour)... to her its nothing much cus shel be texting all her friends all the time... girls do

so man-up and stop talking to her... try and see her face to face but dont arrange it... if this is not possible still dont talk... and if over a week goes by and you 2 havent spoken ring her up and say "i'm taking you out... itl take about an hour and wear something warm."

this sounds like your asking her out kinda... like most pua guys will say summit more subtle like im going out, wanna tag along

but no! she wants you to take control doesnt she? or she wouldnt be with those other less needy guys.

peace

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