Hello all,

Recently became single and traveling in Costa Rica. I've been working on my skills and have gotten three emails the past couple days. I wasn't too interested in the first two, blew one and waiting out the second. The third though is a really great find and I'm not sure how to play it best.

I was having problems finding single girls around, so went to a Yoga class this morning. The instructor, a very cute and extremely fit girl, and I hit it off pretty quickly and had good rapport. After class, I talked to her for a little bit before leaving and I learned that she is a dance instructor as well as a Certified Massage Therapist! I LOVE giving massages as much as giving them and could see myself having a really good time with this girl for the next couple weeks. I've found a great way to find out if they are single is to ask 'do you live here with friends', which really asks much more, and she said she lived her by herself

I asked for her email before leaving and said I'd love to get together sometime over drinks to learn more about living here (really thinking about moving). She gave it to me along with her name and phone number I told her I would talk to her later, and she smiled. She also said that she wasn't teaching the Wednesday class, but would be taking it.

Soooo, now what? I have no problem doing the waiting game if necessary, but there are a few variables thrown in, as I'm only here for a couple weeks and since going back to class on Wednesday I would see her before a semi-long waiting period.

Should I email or call before Wednesday? Should I try to escalate before Wednesday? Or, should I just leave it alone until Wednesday and see her again then?

My feeling is that I should drop her a quick email saying it was nice to meet her today or tomorrow.

PLEASE, any advice???

Thanks a million!

Philip

When was the first class?

If I was you though I would try to steer it away from Yoga asap. You would be slip sliding in the friend zone. You could go to yoga but call her to set up something afterwards. Invite her along to something you hear was nice/interesting and that you wanted to do after that yoga class

I personaly don't like the 'thank her note' email or text. Makes her the prize IMO. I like sending something wity or something like that but nothing too thankish.

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Thanks for your thoughts TheJ.

The first first class was this morning. I think you are right about steering it away from Yoga, but it creates a sticky situation as the next one is so close. Seems like I need to go ahead and call/email today or tomorrow, but I lose some of the me being the prize aspect since I would have to rush it. It might make remove some of the comfortableness too if she doesn't respond before them too.

You think give it a go before then, or leave it alone until the next class and try to move it along in person afterwards?

Any one else have any thoughts?

Also, I'm tight on cash, and am staying in the jungle where there is little to do besides shopping at little stores, eating/drinking, and some touristy things like horseback riding, etc. Should I put the money into asking her to do something like that? My guise (though honest) is that I'd like to pick her brain about living here, though I think I was able to suggest I was looking for more with her subtly.

She is a massage therapist, and I have a killer place here, a total love nest Maybe I should just tell her that I'd love a massage?

Thanks so much!

Philip

I found a botanical garden that is close, Finca La Isla since I can't post URL's yet. They give a jungle tour and show you their chocolate making process and let you sample it.

Do you guys think that would be a good thing to ask her to go on with me? Seems light and would give plenty of opportunity for kino stuff (a strong point of mine). It doesn't cost too much either. My only concern is that it wouldn't be that interesting to someone that has lived here for awhile.

Also, I'm just learning about this stuff really, and having trouble balancing being the prize with being a romantic/good guy. I've seen guys advise against buying dinner, etc, as it's almost like a bribe. Shouldn't I pay for her though if I invite her to go?

Anybody?

the thing about paying is that you want to avoid the connotation that its a date. because dates are usually awkward and just make both parties unnecessarily uncomfortable. anyway, paying for her almost always makes it feel like a date. but to be honest i'm not sure how to avoid it smoothly yet. also, just sayin that if you're new to this, you gotta figure you might lose a few before you get it down to a science.

i wish you luck bro, and i hope someone can add to this to help you along.

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Thanks brother. I decided I should call her tomorrow and ask her how her belly dancing class went, tell her I almost signed up just to see her teach it... humorous hopefully, then tell her I enjoyed meeting her and would love to hang out with her sometime, and that I was thinking of going to the botantical gardens and would she like to go, perhaps after the class on Wednesday. Seems like a good thing to suggest as it's specific, light (not like a date) and a good environment for building some attraction and touch.

Wish me luck! Feel free anyone to jump in and give me your thoughts on this approach. I'm willing to learn

Philip