Quick story...

My buddy's girlfriend has a best friend who is totally my type and a real looker...good stuff. We'll call her HBChica (she's hispanic).

A couple weeks ago, I made the mistake of telling my bud that I thought she was attractive and I was interested in getting to know her, since later that day, when I was chilling at his place and his gf was there, he told her what I thought and she just gave some bs auto-response like "Oh, she's kinda seeing a couple people right now.." Whatever.

Now, a couple weeks later, we're at a big party, and the gf comes up to me and says "hey, do you remember what you said about HBChica? ...I think you should go talk to her...she wants you to come talk to her."

Note I'm not at all surprised, Josh Hartnett looks like me and I'm walking around with the body language and social proof of Tom Cruise (and yes, I'm lmao as I type this).

So I tell her "cool, I'll make my way over there."

For better or worse, I never did that night. I was busy gaming and hanging with my boys (and I saw the gf the next day and she was like "Why didn't you talk to her? You should..blah, etc."

Now, I know exactly how to attract and escalate with girls who I don't already have an "in" with. But how do you act with a chick who you already have best friend-confirmation from that she's physically attracted to you? Do I do anything differently, or just proceed as normal?

Holler,

WorkEthic

To be completely honest, I literally was faced with a situation almost exactly like yours. I went ahead and proceeded as normal (push-pull, little bit of teasing) and ended up using a lot of natural gaming. If anything, I think the friend confirmation was even better. My friend happened to be a girl who only encouraged the situation. Since it's your buddy's gf pushing HBChica on you, I think you've got all the advantages in this going in as you usually do. Might take even less game than usual.

Agreed.

I think when I first get the introduction, I'll say something like, "You know, it's funny, I told "buddy's gf" that I saw a friend of her's who I thought was cute and looked like someone I'd be willing to get to know better and she said her name was "HBChica".... I can't believe she has TWO friends named "HBChica".

LMAO.

That should set the tone right away.

Fluff for a second, go into a good opener (just had a new one come up in my life that I think is great "How does my buddy break up with his girlfriend...she's SO into him...when he tried to end it once, she went insane...he's worried she might do something crazy if he tries again, etc....). Then, transition into taking something she says to mean she's either totally feisty or a big troublemaker. Then, find out her major, elicit her core value and phase-shift into a kiss-close...

Now I just gotta find the time when I'm gonna meet this girl.

I completely agree with Rawky's assessment. One thing that I would like to add, which is meant to be a general analysis of HB9-10s, because the main women I am attracted to and that I prefer to be with are hispanic, is that most hispanic women that I have had the pleasure of being with are big on certain male traits. I find that hispanic women seem to be most attracted to a man who is confident, a risk-taker, has social proof, and has good looks.

The reason I bring this up is because WorkEthic seems to have most of these qualities, yet he is lacking in the risk department. Hispanics take this to be unattractive because we assess that you are an individual who is scared of something when you should not be, if you have the other traits of course.

I find that with hispanics, like with other women, when you have a friend's approval, you are "in." At that time, gaming becomes easier because there is no obstacle and she begins to think that you are socially valuable (her friend thinks so, so why not think the same--this is her thinking).

What I find distinct about hispanic women (and I am not sure about this with other women because of my lack of experience with those other ethnic groups) is that you must capitalize on that opportunity by making it look like you came to her without the knowledge that you have her. You cannot act like she is a guaranteed catch just because of her friend's approval. I usually act like there is still a risk, one that I will clearly overcome once she gets to know me. I guess they like to get chased after in a certain way.

I just noticed your (workethic) recent post. I would advise you to be more direct with her. Give her some SOI (statements of interest and of intent). This openness will convey your sense of confidence and your risk-taking because you are doing what most do not. If you are too indirect with her since you already seem to be "in" with her, she will think that you are scared to go for what you want, which is highly unattractive. Of course, keep the fun factor and the kino on point and you should be in no probem with your normal gaming skills. Truly, I hope this helps.

Holler Lorenzo.

My game is usually really indirect upfront, so coming in direct is new territory for me.

How would you play this? Examples are appreciated.

I am truly sorry for the late reply, for I just came back from a military stint.

It may be too late for the advice, but I hope that it will help you if there is a similar situation in your future.

I would hangout with her and start complimenting her (simple statements like those shoes look nice on you, or you have a nice sense of style). Then I would make it look like for whatever reason (I usually say that I had a recent dream with that female in it), I see her as so f*cking hot and stunning. I would make it look as if she did a spell on me and there is something that I cannot control. I would always be KINOing and complimenting her. Every once in a while, I would throw in the idea that it must be something she is doing to me because I never think of a female like this. I would almost make her allure incomprehensibly attractive to me. OMG she will love it that she has you wrapped around her fingers.

It is an amazing tactic because you have been indirect before and the sudden directness will have her questioning her allure. Blame it on her perfume, the new make-up she must be wearing, the tan she got--whatever helps her notice that you are into her. I even make it look as if I must have been blinded bfore because i did not notice it.

If this is weird because of what ever reason, then do it when there are drinks involved. Now do not blame your attraction to the drinking; blame your honesty on the drinking. Say, In vino veritas, latin for the truth in wine, stating that this is what you have always wanted to tell her but did not have the courage to do it. Heck, tell her that you will make sure that this honesty is shown at all times because you do not want it tobe hidden...

As long as you are not in the LJBF zone, you should be good with these behaviors. Make sure to always seek for her feedback because if she feels weirded out by your confessions then you should stop. Usually, female love having this shown to them, especially from a guy whom they consider to be potential mates, unless it be person in the LJBF zone.