Hi guys,

I met a girl while working in a night club. This girl is easy HB 8.5
I saw her and we had a small interaction before going seperate ways. At the end of the night we were clearing out and she pulled me to one side. I grabed her close and we had a little flirt... this all came out the blue. She seemed interested in me and wanted to know about me. I ended up taking her number and she went on her way.

We have been txting for about a week but they are very delayed messeges. Today she seemed a bit quicker off the mark but when i said we should go for a drink she said..... She has a boyfriend at present but when she sees me next we can descuss drinking options!! WTF is that all about!? I havent replyed to that messege yet as not quite sure how to play it. For the record i do want to F close her!

If she has given me her number she may not be happy with what she has.

Not sure what to say next tho.... Any ideas?

Reckon you're being shit tested. Ignore the boyfriend and the "drinking options" thing, run some C&F and ask her out somewhere of your choosing. Then you can see if she's serious.

Offer up a bar where you can go to, not the same club you met her in. Somewhere you are comfortable with.

From there try to build up some kino, if there is a lot of interference/denial then I would let it go. If she plays into, you get a kiss or more, then you got something. After that it's all you and her on how you want to play the boyfriend thing.

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you have 2 options. you can ignore it, and just continue with the flow of the convo, or you can reply with something that is C&f.

Maybe reply. Sweet, bring him with you. I'll bring my girl and we can double date.

You can find some C&F material to counter her shit test. Good luck.

Post how it went

I have to comment on this.

The double date is almost always going to end with you as a friend. I have a friend who uses this pretty often, it goes nowhere... You don't want to know this guy and she doesn't want you to know him if she's going out with you.

You can throw down some C&F but don't assume it's a shit test. In fact, she did want to talk about drinking with you. I don't think her BF would like her drinking with you but she's already put that up in the air so you're going in the right direction.

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C&F all the way...

Her: " I have a boyfriend at present but when you see me next we can discuss drinking options!!"

You: "OMG, I have a boyfriend too! Can you promise me you wont say anything to him? And what are these drinking options you speak of?"

If she calls you on being gay ( a neg) You do the whole "If I wasnt gay, you would be so mine". "What about those drinks..." etc


-ub

Fantastic! I like that, going to have to field test that in person.

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Guys, the update...

So saw her last night and there was no mention of her BF, later that night she asked if I wanted to come to her place for a party. And you can guess the f close was on the cards even know I didn't push for it. I found out later that night that her BF was on his way out and she see's him as a friend! Good for the Graplin. Haha. Thanks guys for your posts. This is a great brotherhood. X

I had something similar happen to me....

First, she IS playing you...so, if you are game, then its OK.

Second, what happened to me is that this girl wanted to be in a threesome with me and HER HUSBAND...awkward...but I said what the hell.

Third, stop texting and start calling her...my experience is, if you text too much, you weaken the attraction. A girl wants to hear your voice and wants to see if you can keep a conversation going over the phone, not via texting.

All I can say is that the threesome was awesome...but I made it clear that I was not bi or gay in any way, so she was passed around like a rag-doll, rotated around and sexually used.

She now comes over to my place every now and then, sometimes with a girlfriend...smiles...., for some fun because her rich husband can't keep her satisfied.

We are just F-Buddies, which is fine by me... ; )

J-Dub

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Sweet man! Now do you want her as a girlfriend, one time fuck, or a f buddy. F buddies are not as hard as people make them out to be, I think it is all in the girl. My problem is I only get theone time fuck and that is. I never see them again.