So it was last night, or technically Saturday night now, I was at this college party. It was pretty bad ass, tons of hot chicks.
Anyway I didn't even take a drink the whole night, primarily because I am underage and had to drive home. I saw this really hot girl (If your into the whole scale thing, I'd say she was a 9) sitting down by a fire. It seemed like she was with one of her friends but wasn't engaged with her at all and seemed to just be enjoying the fire. Surprisingly there was a seat open next to her so somehow had the balls to approach her! So I sat down next to her and I started talking to her with some crap I made up.

Me: "Hey so me and my buddy over there are in this argument and can't come to a conclusion on this. We can't decide on whether it's ok to buy jeans over $100. I think it's perfectly fine, but my friend over there would never buy jeans over $50. What do you think?"
Her: "Ya I think it's pretty ridiculous to buy jeans over $100, i never buy any over $100."
Me: "I think that's pretty smart, but I have found some pretty sweet jeans that ended up being over $100 and just couldn't resist buying them. Have you ever ran over a bird?"
Her: "*laughs* no have you?"
Me: (tell her story of the other day).
yada yada yada

So at this point she was actually pretty interested. I started getting her attention and engaging her more by telling some other stories and asking some random questions.

I establish some kino a little bit into the conversation by touching her on the shoulder when I was about to ask one of my "important" questions. She responded really well to it.

Her: "Omg your hands are really cold! *smile*"
Me: "*laugh* and yours aren't?" (I grab her hand and hold it for a little bit, surprisingly her hands were actually pretty warm)

We start talking about other stuff and start touching and flirting more for about another hour.

I tell her, "Hey I found a pretty sweet game room place a floor below us wanna go check it out? They have some pretty sweet games like pool and foosball."
Her: "Ok!"

So I grab her by the hand and lead her downstairs to the game room. No one was in there. It wasn't even a few minutes before her friend had to spoil it. Supposedly some drunk dude was asking her some pretty interesting questions and was feeling uncomfortable, so we accompanied her. We talk for about 30 minutes more until they had to leave. I managed to get her number and before she gave it to me, she said,
"You remember my name right?"
Me: I really didn't, I felt retarded and I said, "Uh yeah, of course."

She never had me confirm it though and just gave me her number.
Me: "Sweet. I'll text you."
Her: "And I'll text you back *smile*" Then she left.

So I end up going home too after a little bit.
I text her about 30 minutes later.

Me: "Hey there!"
Her: "Hiya "
Me: "K so would you kill me if I said I couldn't remember your name?" BIG MISTAKE
Her: "Yes. You are dead to me." (I couldn't tell if she was serious..)
Me: "Shit ok good thing i remember it.. It starts with an a right?" (I actually do remember it starting with an "a")
Her: "Perhaps"
Me: "If I guess it right will you tell me?"
Her: "No. I'm very disappointed."
Me: "Lol whatever I'm pretty sure it's aubrey"
Her: "Umm definitely not."
Me: "It's at least close.."
Her: "No. It fucking isn't."

So at this point I call her.. ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE. I should have at least thought of what I was going to say, but I didn't. She was really pissed. There was a lot of awkwardness and I can't really remember the whole conversation but I do remember the last part.

Her: "I'm going to bed in 30 minutes, if you can't remember my name by then you can just forget about me."

SHIT!!!! Is she a bitch or what?

It's been forever since I've kissed a girl and had a really got along well with someone so at this point I'm pissed the f*** off. She's really hot and the thought that me not remembering her name means I would lose her is RIDICULOUS! I really couldn't remember her name but I do remember it started with an a so I thought of girl names that started with an a.. it took me like 10 minutes but I actually REMEMBERED HER NAME, or I was 80% sure anyway. So I called her up and told her (another mistake, I should have text her).

Me: "I'll bet your pretty shocked!"
Her: "Ya I kinda am.."
Me: yet another mistake "Ya, I'm pretty proud of myself"
Her: "Congratulations (still in a pissed off mood), well I'm going to bed now bye."
Me: "Alright.. bye"

So even after remembering her name now, only God knows how, it felt as though this was done with. So the next day I see what I can do.

NEXT DAY TEXTS (some pretty AFC shit)

Me: "Hey! So I could hardly sleep last night "
Her: "Why? Because you're an asshole?"
Me: "Why are you still being cold? Is it because you think I'm a player or something? I'm not and never want to be. I haven't kissed a girl in 4 months. So if that's the impression you got then i'm sorry cuz i'm not"
Her: "Prove it"
Me: "Prove what?"
Me: "Look i still really want to hang out with you again. If by proving it you mean only talking and hanging out with you, i'm down"
Her: "Ok."
Me: ":) and don't worry (her name) I won't forget your name and i don't know if that's how you spell it.."
Her: "Ya. Thats how you spell it"
I ask her some random questions. texts finally turn around to not being so pissed starts texting me happy faces and exclamation marks yada yada yada

So everything is pretty cool now, or so I think. Even if it isn't and she ends up blowing me off I still learned a lot!

Cliffs:
-went to party
-approached girl
-connected with girl
-got girls number
-texted girl
-told her i couldn't remember her name
-she got really pissed off
-somehow remembered name
-saved everything next day somehow


What I learned:

1. REMBEMBER HER FUCKING NAME! And if you don't, don't tell her you don't! Try to find out through other people when you hang out with her again. If she calls you out on it then only then are you fucked, unless you have some awesome witty comment.
2. ESTABLISH KINO! I've seen a lot of guys including myself not do this and I think it's HUGE in building attraction and being able to advance in the relationship.
3. SMILE! I couldn't really tell this in my experience but I smiled A LOT! I don't know the whole reasoning behind it but IT HELPS A SHITLOAD! I've noticed a huge difference between girls I smile a lot with and girls I don't. Literally if I don't smile I LOSE!
4. DON'T DRINK OR DRINK MODERATELY! I always find that when I get drunk I SUCK with girls or attract the ugly skanky bitch whores. ALSO I have found that the more quality women, the hotter ones AND the ones without the nasty std's are the ones who don't drink or drink moderately.
5. APPROACH KNOWING AN OPENER! I found that this helped a TON! If you have no idea what to say, don't approach her. I've done this before and the word FAIL comes to mind. All an opener is for is starting the conversation. I quickly went from the opener into a story.
6. BE ENTERTAINING! If I didn't know any stories or fun/stupid questions to ask it would have gone NOWHERE FAST!

That's all I could think of right now. Hope this helps a little bit!

Nice recovery there. I'm also a fan of not drinking whilst out otherwise my game goes all pete tong, plus if you get asked about it you can just lead easily into a DHV story of choice (e.g training for something, going a month without drinking to prove you can do it or in my case i'm a firefighter and on call or will be upon returning).

Had a few too many incidents of forgetting names whilst sarging (pre-game enlightenment) in ibiza

Thanks man. It was a lucky save anyway. I will have to come up with a DHV story of my own for not drinking. Don't have one yet. Thanks for the input.

lol good one.

I am still learning so it may sound like a stupid question. When she asked you about her name, would it be possible to make it funny that your forget her name by some way?

And also, I thought it's not good to insist on a girl. On this case how you knew it was possible to recover the situation? It's because she answered to your sms?

Im awful at remembering names. just the worst, so i dont use them.

The way i overcome it is to give her a nickname i create from the first meet (last girl spilt her drink all over the table, so i mocked her for it once or twice and called her "miss clumsy" from then on).

The joy of it is that if you do introduce her to someone else, you call her miss clumsy and most the time; she tells them her real name (for me to try to remember again).

It also means that you have created your own little bubble with her, you only just met her and you got a pet name for her!

I had a cheeky "forgot your name" save a few weeks back. I couldn't for the life of me remember it and we had been talking for a while, eventually I think I realised I had to find out what it was again or she called me out or something and I said "sorry, i forgot your name" in a fairly serious tone, she said in a pissed off tone "it's Alice" (that's right I can even remember it now lol) on the spot thinking i came back with "of course i know your name silly i'm just busting your chops, wow you're so gullible!!" in a jokey/smiley tone, instantly she went back to normal and I got her name again (made sure to remember it that time).

So if ever you are in a tight bind where you can't remember her name, I'd suggest trying this out. Word to the wise though, I'd suggest using this ASAP, the sooner you do it the easier it is to play it off as a joke. For instance say she told you her name 10 minutes ago and you have already forgotten, use this and after saying she is gullible say "i mean come on you only told me 10 minutes ago" it makes it more believable that you didn't actually forget, whereas if you leave it too late she will be more inclined to think you have actually forgot and you are just clutching at straws.

Another thing you could do which is a bit more sneaky, just after you get her name pretend you are sending a text but actually write her name and save it as a draft to refere back to. Anytime you forget her name just pretend you're reading a text and BINGO!

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If you've forgotten their name NEVER directly ask - it's usually suicide.

I use "This might sound stupid, but how do you spell your name?" via text.

Gets you your answer and saves any drama, she's none the wiser.

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Depends on the girl. I usually get away with it by asking how they spell their name like a couple others have mentioned on here. Usually they will be a little upset but not overly upset like the girl from the other day.
I didn't know I could recover, in fact I wasn't really even counting on it. The fact she answered my sms was a good sign, yes. If she didn't then I would not have contacted her again.
hahaha nice man. I've done that a few times too.
Haha nice save. I'm gonna try remembering names anyway. Probably a good habit.
Ya it WAS suicide. You live and learn!
And the whole how do you spell your name thing doesn't work as well lol I have been called out on that before, too. Most of the time though they will just give it to you cuz they like you or they actually are none the wiser.

I do 2 things to solve the name problem:
1) I give girls nicknames, and nicknames are easy to remember; and
2) I wait as long as possible before I give out my name. often the girl is begging for my name after a while, it's a nice cocky/funny tease to do to them. If they don't know my name, it's no big deal if I don't know there's.

Just fucked up a shit test! (text, have plans for tonight)

Me: I have present for you remind me to give it to you tonight!
Her: A present?! What is it?
Me: Ask me that later tonight lol
Her: Are you going to make a move on me?
Me: Hmmm good idea! (total afc shit, should have thought that a little more through fuuuuuuuuuuu)
Her: I don't think so.
Me: Fine. I'll try not to think about it

no response


I have been talking with her since last saturday and to my knowledge she's still really into me. Wtf? Do you think she is serious? I was NOT expecting this.

It looks to me like she's serious. Did you end up meeting up?

Ya she texted me 5 hours later and we still ended up hanging out, flirted and bantered. I asked her about if she really meant it and she said "kinda, I still haven't told you about the story yet.." I'm pretty sure it's about her ex bf she lived with for 2 years. She didn't respond to a text yesterday so we never hung out last night. I'm not going to text her for a couple days unless she texts me. Errrrr this game is a bitch sometimes

If you run into this situation again... I agree with what you said... try other avenues to find out through friends, or other conversations. Or just dont bring it up. You can usually buy a few days time. Another approach, while sneaky, is call her at a very odd (middle of the night?) with a blocked number. A lot of times they wont anser, and you can head the voicemail. Most of the time they have said their name.